Libido question

[Phun Times 727]

So over the long weekend my wife and I wound up at a party and hanging out with friends, also there was a couple that we consider friends that were my wifes test run 3 some back some time ago, long story short it was attempted but didn't materialize and we moved on/all still friends etc. Anyhow they know our current situation with my wife having a boyfriend and our MFM weekends etc. We got into a discussion about whether or not this is a one way street or not. They were of the belief that given the amount of sex my wife is having with me, him and both of us together that her libido is never going to be able to return to sex with just one partner. We had a long debate over this which is funny as they could have been the benefactors if they had not squandered the opportunity. So my wife felt it is possible, although currently we/she do not have any plans to do so. She did agree her libido is running at 400% recently and going cold turkey would be rough but a systematic approach to wind things down could work.

I hadn't really thought much about this but I do see it is different for her than for me. I have been having extra fun, much more than previous but nowhere near as much as she has. Not only has our sex increased quite a bit but she also has the time all 3 of us are together and sometimes that invloves one on one where one of the men is sitting out, but she also has regular visits with the boyfriend one on one. So really a huge increase.

Once we got home she and I talked about it again away from the friends and we do both agree we have no plans to make any changes but she is in a unique scenario right now where she would not be able to just go back too previous without some gradual wind down.As far as how we would do that, we haven't tackled that but we both acknowledge both our libidos are in overtime but hers is way way elevated.

Have any of you had to deal with this situation? If so how did you do it or did you choose to do anything other than fueling the fire? (which is an acceptable answer)
Again, no immediate plans to change anything.

 

[DesiTexas]

In my case we have a five year age gap between me and my wife. My libido has dropped with age but my wife's has stayed the same. She still needs it more than me. I can make do with self service but she needs cock in pussy sex.

 

[coastalkid]

It must have been odd to talk so casually about your sex life with your friends, especially since you didn't have any sexual encounter with them. That in and of itself had to be a cool thing! To not feel inhibited to discuss such intimate details has to feel liberating. Kudos to you both for considering some sort of "end game". When I read some of your first posts I thought you were taking unnecessary chances but now I can see you're looking ahead and discussing it together as to what the future holds for you both.

My best guess is that you should ride that pony til it bucks you off! If you're having more fun than ever before and your wife hasn't gotten so carried away that she has forgotten about your future together then go for it while you can. Keep talking to each other. Don't let any feeling you have go unspoken. You've only spent so much time with her libido ramped up like it is and you're likely to have feelings you never anticipated because it's relatively new to you too.

 

[Phun Times 727]

It must have been odd to talk so casually about your sex life with your friends, especially since you didn't have any sexual encounter with them. That in and of itself had to be a cool thing! To not feel inhibited to discuss such intimate details has to feel liberating. Kudos to you both for considering some sort of "end game". When I read some of your first posts I thought you were taking unnecessary chances but now I can see you're looking ahead and discussing it together as to what the future holds for you both.

My best guess is that you should ride that pony til it bucks you off! If you're having more fun than ever before and your wife hasn't gotten so carried away that she has forgotten about your future together then go for it while you can. Keep talking to each other. Don't let any feeling you have go unspoken. You've only spent so much time with her libido ramped up like it is and you're likely to have feelings you never anticipated because it's relatively new to you too.

While I never had any sexual experience with them my wife has, or tried to anyway. It didn't really get off the ground with them but my wife did have oral sex with the guy 3 times so his girl is still looking somewhat jealous and condescending in some ways to my wife. She doesn't approve of what we are doing as she is a condom queen with her BF of several years so the fact my wife is not using condoms is a huge issue in her mind along with the whole having a long running "affair" is what she calls it. I would say it was least awkard for me as I was not part f the botched threesome so I do not have any direct involvment in the dynamic but I do in the shitty insinuations that my wife is going to become some sort of raving nympho. There is no doubt her libido is at an alltime high, given her age it should be. I wouldn't say we are making an exit plan by any means but we have had a few talks about what would happen if her BF moves on at some point. I mean it is certainly possible as he is a relatively normal guy with normal life expectations and needs. He may want/need a full time monogamous relationship down the road. He is at the age where he would. Our talk was along the lines of if this is the new normal for us or a chapter in our lives we look back on.

 

[dickhurtz]

i think it would be extremely hot to have, & socialize with, friends, who are monogamous, to be aware of your LS.

i would be interested to hear their conversations on their way home after a party.