Let her go ?

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WOW, trip of a lifetime!! My Boss/Lover and I used to spend a month at the Corporate Condo together, I REALLY miss that. We ended the relationship during COVID, he get very odd with all the crazy stories. Several trips I took over the years also resulted in my coming back home and informing hubby he was cut off for a while, because there was a VERY good chance I had come home pregnant!! And I wanted to be SURE it wasn't hubbies but I was going to continue to be with my Lover. He loved it of course. I heard he posted my lates tconfession to him on here somewhere tonight too....he was pretty amazed that I actually thought (wanted) my first baby was by my first Boss I had an affair with. Wish it had been. J (the wife)
 
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The problem here is the idea of “should I let her go?” She’s an adult and if she wants to do something she doesn’t need your approval or ok to do it. My wife would never ask me “can I do something“ not a chance. She‘d ...... me if I even sounded like I was giving her permission to do something. She does what she wants. I might say that will make me angry or unhappy, but never say she ”cant” do something. WW3 would occur hahaha

Mine is out of the country now for a couple of weeks and yes will probably fuck someone, but I don’t ask. If she wants to tell me she will, its her decision. Sometimes she’s horny and wants to get laid, sometimes not. She does it for herself not for me.
I guess everyone's idea of relationship, or being a "couple", is different. "married", like the expression "married at the hip" means joined/connected, so what one person might mean by "let her go", could mean "be ok with her going" as in "I don't mind"... Like "would make me upset", if you said "That might make me upset" as a response to "What would you think if", what is the difference between that and flat out saying not to do something? Both signal the same thing, is there a choice? Always.... Two different roads going to the same location, one isn't wrong over the other and they're both the same distance.

"She does for herself, not for me." Sure, but if while doing for herself, the consequences get passed along to you, it's not just herself anymore? Hence, "Let her go" as you're part of the equation as well when it comes to potentially dealing with the consequences of the action. That's why a "partner" consults with the other. Maybe it is asking for permission, but there's reason, two people in the car that feel the direct consequence of the decision made to hang a left at the intersection without stopping. Hanging the left, without consideration of whether your partner wishes to or not, could be considered a little narcissistic by some.
 
Kate's been invited on a trip with a group of guys that is traveling around different place's in the world. She would be with them for about 3 weeks. I've had her go on trips before, but nothing that long. And never with the a big group of guy's. This is a group of 7 guys. What do you guys think? Should I let her go? It would be a trip for sure for her. And they are paying for everything if she did go.
Don't expect her back!!
 
I guess everyone's idea of relationship, or being a "couple", is different. "married", like the expression "married at the hip" means joined/connected, so what one person might mean by "let her go", could mean "be ok with her going" as in "I don't mind"... Like "would make me upset", if you said "That might make me upset" as a response to "What would you think if", what is the difference between that and flat out saying not to do something? Both signal the same thing, is there a choice? Always.... Two different roads going to the same location, one isn't wrong over the other and they're both the same distance.

"She does for herself, not for me." Sure, but if while doing for herself, the consequences get passed along to you, it's not just herself anymore? Hence, "Let her go" as you're part of the equation as well when it comes to potentially dealing with the consequences of the action. That's why a "partner" consults with the other. Maybe it is asking for permission, but there's reason, two people in the car that feel the direct consequence of the decision made to hang a left at the intersection without stopping. Hanging the left, without consideration of whether your partner wishes to or not, could be considered a little narcissistic by some.
I agree about being an adult and making decisions but traveling with another guy out of the atea for a long time and not discussing it is TOTALLY WRONG