I'm grooming Claire, now. Her husband is in the Air Force, and when he is here they invite me to some cookouts and other family stuff. When he is deployed I often take her and the kids to soccer, little league, whichever sport they are in at the time. I sit by Claire in the bleachers. When we get to their house the kids go to their rooms for homework or computer play, whatever. Claire fixes coffee or soft drinks and we talk. She ins comfortable telling me about her problems, concerns, etc. Often she needs a hug, and she shows appreciation with kisses. Last week she went down on me for the first time. Patience is paying off.