Over the years my wife has had numerous long term FWBs with my consent then later a relationship with another man spanning 5 years plus, this had totally different dynamics for all.
With FWBs we dipped our toe into this LS as and when it suited all, one evening of deborchary then back to normal life.
With a relationship, he controlled her sexuality 100% and thus i became completely surplus to her as a lover, completing this transition from the 80% i had been before he arrived.
We would wait for her arrival from work and became good friends, she would arrive home, kiss me then him, then she was his. We chatted around the dinner table as she made a meal for the two men in her life, then later go for a quick bath. He would join her then they would take to our marital bed.
I consented to all this, the role of a cuck husband. He never sought to control me, he said to her he knew he couldnt as i was and am a dominant male. My wife surrendered to his sexual desires and it was she that commenced semi feminizing me during this period, not him.
They became a couple, would go out together, on holiday and stay occasonally in hotels if away for the night, he wanted complete excusivity over her sex life but never achieved it. My wife wanted me involved, watching, touching her and we even went to a couple of clubs where she did play with other men, a rare event i will say, as in the main we just went to the pleasure and kink of being there, therefore in a way it was he not me that she cucked, if thats possible.
The problems were emotional, they fell in love, he was married and would not give his wife and family up, it was my wife that wanted more, he was happy with the arrangement as it had always been. What she wanted was a true poly relationship but didnt understand the dynamics of this, i did and would have allowed this as he would never have lived with us.
Therefore it was she that broke this relationship, she walked away from him and told me it was becoming too complicated, she simply could not love two men and felt it would damage our relationship.
In truth she has never really recovered from the split with him, even if by this time she had another FWBs, she though chose to continue with my semi feminisation, i think as much as anything to stop me straying, she saying you like it, err yes i do.
A further hurdle was covid, she suggested we try again with a sex life, one like we used to have, however having been a cuck for 30 plus years, locked away most of the time, semi feminized my mind had changed and so had my sexual ability and desires. I also knew i couldnt satisfy her anyway.
The painful truth as we have discussed is that she now sees me more as a brother or sister sexually, i can touch as i wish, she still dresses for me and we kiss numerous times a day, she still allocates me my female clothing daily and we remain deeply in love. However i doubt we will ever have sex between us and i know from her reaction she understands this too.
This is the downside of a lifetime in this LS.