My wife’s last partner before she met me , he had a few issues mentally I think and he committed suicide , but in relation to me my wife had told me she had left him when she was fooling around with this rat jack - but in actual fact she was still living with her partner at the time - came home today and she was obviously returning a text as she looked a bit startled when I appeared from work and got a text five minutes ago with me sitting next to her and sneakily angled her phone and swiped away after , I have 4 days to keep it together , before I open a huge can of whoop ass on her , normally I’d have confronted her by now and as you said gave her the ultimatum to share her with him and others or fuck off but this is an emotional tied rat , and has to be handled very differently so she has no comeback because if I confront her she will only say - well you wanted me to go with other men so I am - yes that is correct but purely sex not someone who is basically her lost love and I’m being backstabbed in the process - can’t get near my friends to see what they have , so having to keep the batteries charged and let them keep on trucking 😀😀