Im dating a man who wants me to have sex with other men. Is it common and if so how does a relationship like this work?
We’ve been dating for 4 months and it’s been amazing. For the first time I think real love is actually something that exist. We have a great sexual chemistry and we’ve explored new areas in that department, which brings me to this topic.
My boyfriend’s biggest fantasy is to have a threesome with another man. But in this threesome he only wants to watch! The idea of me being attracted to another man and being seduced by him, devoting myself to him, turns him on. All the while both men devote themselves to please me, my boyfriend holding and kissing me, the other man penetrating me.
It wouldn’t bother him at all to share me in a way that would actually humiliate him, he even wants it to be humiliating. Also, He knows I find black men attractive (I’m white and Latina) and most of my past relationships were with black men and it excites him even more, if I were to have a threesome with a black man.
He’s fixated on the idea that a black man with a bigger penis would satisfy me more and he wants him too. Yes, I’ve had men who were bigger and it’s definitely a bonus but my boyfriend is the perfect size and the best lover I’ve been with. I can’t imagine someone better than him, no matter how big, let alone wanting to actually ...... with someone else while he watches.
My boyfriend is so manly and at the same time he has sensibility and doesn’t hide his emotions. He’s dominant and in control and knows how to bring my sexual desires to satisfaction, some of which I didn’t know I had before I met him. He’s also jealous and a little possessive but in a overprotective sort of way.
So I can’t understand this other side of him, this fantasy where he would want me to do all the things that would normally lead to complete break up. Based on his personality, it doesn’t fit at all.
However, I’m open to the idea. I think it’s hot to be possessed by two men, both of them kissing and touching me. But it doesn’t go past heavy petting. I just can’t imagine myself submitting to another guy all the way. I’m afraid of what would happen if I do end up loving the sex with another man and it’s actually better than with my boyfriend, because right now it’s the best i ever had. To top that, would be dangerous.
And because I am in love with him and I can see myself being with him long term. Our relationship is going so well and I’m very happy with him. I don’t want to risk that, yet here I am trying to figure out, how I can open myself up to his desires and possibly make them my own.
I still can’t admit to him, that the idea of being able to explore with other men and still be with him, is appealing to me. We watch interracial porn together and he’s always asking me if I like the guy and if he turns me on and even though I do, I’m too afraid to admit it because it just feels wrong. It feels wrong to be in love and still be turned on by someone else.
So it’s even harder for me to admit that I do like the idea of being able to be open about people I find attractive and maybe even want to ...... with them.
To most women who are open about their sexuality thus may be a dream coming true but the hardest part about it is being able to still love and respect him as I do now and not let this change the way I see and feel for him. I, for one, could and would never want to share him with someone else. Something like that would make me retort to violence. So for him to not do anything to stop me from being with someone else makes it hard not to judge him in the end for it because I feel like if he loves me he should be man enough to stop something like that from happening.
I know it’s a narrow way of thinking and I hope people who have experience in this sort of thing can help with my questions and give me different perspectives from their point of views. I feel like I’m overthinking things to the extreme. So I would appreciate honest feedback and suggestions. Thanks for the support.
We’ve been dating for 4 months and it’s been amazing. For the first time I think real love is actually something that exist. We have a great sexual chemistry and we’ve explored new areas in that department, which brings me to this topic.
My boyfriend’s biggest fantasy is to have a threesome with another man. But in this threesome he only wants to watch! The idea of me being attracted to another man and being seduced by him, devoting myself to him, turns him on. All the while both men devote themselves to please me, my boyfriend holding and kissing me, the other man penetrating me.
It wouldn’t bother him at all to share me in a way that would actually humiliate him, he even wants it to be humiliating. Also, He knows I find black men attractive (I’m white and Latina) and most of my past relationships were with black men and it excites him even more, if I were to have a threesome with a black man.
He’s fixated on the idea that a black man with a bigger penis would satisfy me more and he wants him too. Yes, I’ve had men who were bigger and it’s definitely a bonus but my boyfriend is the perfect size and the best lover I’ve been with. I can’t imagine someone better than him, no matter how big, let alone wanting to actually ...... with someone else while he watches.
My boyfriend is so manly and at the same time he has sensibility and doesn’t hide his emotions. He’s dominant and in control and knows how to bring my sexual desires to satisfaction, some of which I didn’t know I had before I met him. He’s also jealous and a little possessive but in a overprotective sort of way.
So I can’t understand this other side of him, this fantasy where he would want me to do all the things that would normally lead to complete break up. Based on his personality, it doesn’t fit at all.
However, I’m open to the idea. I think it’s hot to be possessed by two men, both of them kissing and touching me. But it doesn’t go past heavy petting. I just can’t imagine myself submitting to another guy all the way. I’m afraid of what would happen if I do end up loving the sex with another man and it’s actually better than with my boyfriend, because right now it’s the best i ever had. To top that, would be dangerous.
And because I am in love with him and I can see myself being with him long term. Our relationship is going so well and I’m very happy with him. I don’t want to risk that, yet here I am trying to figure out, how I can open myself up to his desires and possibly make them my own.
I still can’t admit to him, that the idea of being able to explore with other men and still be with him, is appealing to me. We watch interracial porn together and he’s always asking me if I like the guy and if he turns me on and even though I do, I’m too afraid to admit it because it just feels wrong. It feels wrong to be in love and still be turned on by someone else.
So it’s even harder for me to admit that I do like the idea of being able to be open about people I find attractive and maybe even want to ...... with them.
To most women who are open about their sexuality thus may be a dream coming true but the hardest part about it is being able to still love and respect him as I do now and not let this change the way I see and feel for him. I, for one, could and would never want to share him with someone else. Something like that would make me retort to violence. So for him to not do anything to stop me from being with someone else makes it hard not to judge him in the end for it because I feel like if he loves me he should be man enough to stop something like that from happening.
I know it’s a narrow way of thinking and I hope people who have experience in this sort of thing can help with my questions and give me different perspectives from their point of views. I feel like I’m overthinking things to the extreme. So I would appreciate honest feedback and suggestions. Thanks for the support.
