Hello, my wife and I have a very vanilla sex life but she loves to have sex with me. Everytime i try to joke around with her and tell her she should fuck another man to see if she’d like it she always tells me that it hurts her for me to let a man be sexual with her(I let her believe I was joking). I think she thinks I’m trying to make a gateway for me to cheat but I’m not. I just got my wife a 9.5inch dildo. Now she was a virgin before she met me. She’s always been innocent and a shy girl. I won’t lie I’m only like 4.5 inches long and she’s never had longer and I don’t feel like I satisfy her. Anyways I got her the dildo and she said it was huge and she was nervous to use it. When the time came she worked up to it and was taking it deep and fast. She creamed from it and she’s never done that with me. She saying it doesn’t feel like the real thing but still enjoys it. Do you think she prefers big dick? (She sent me a video of her using it if anyone wants to see it and let me know if she likes big dick) if she does I want to further pursue getting her to becoming a hotwife
You are in a tough position. If you are not completely honest you will regret it, but telling her the absolute truth could cause problems too.
I think one of the most important things is convincing her that you don't want other women. Perhaps introduce denial for yourself into the play. Test the waters on a chastity device. Suggest she lock you in it, then make you watch her use the dildo and not let you out of it until she wants to. You may be surprised at how much she enjoys the control and she might be too.
Quick story that relates to this. My cousin was dying to be cuckolded but was scared to death to tell his wife. He was so into it that he was fucking my wife several times a week just to be somehow involved in a cuckold experience. This went on for years! I finally convinced him to breach the subject with his wife and he was floored that she loved the idea. He wasn't into cleaning, but he loved the idea of other guys fucking and cumming in her. Long story short, she started fucking a guy she worked with and within a year she had cut my cousin off and was fucking several different guys. About 4 months after she cut him off he texted me that she was pregnant. He didn't know she had gone off of birth control but he was super-excited and told everyone she was having another baby just like it was his.
My point is this. Your fear is the only thing holding you back. Make her comfortable that it isn't about you fucking other women and you may be surprised at what she is willing to do.
I think one of the most important things is convincing her that you don't want other women. Perhaps introduce denial for yourself into the play. Test the waters on a chastity device. Suggest she lock you in it, then make you watch her use the dildo and not let you out of it until she wants to. You may be surprised at how much she enjoys the control and she might be too.
Quick story that relates to this. My cousin was dying to be cuckolded but was scared to death to tell his wife. He was so into it that he was fucking my wife several times a week just to be somehow involved in a cuckold experience. This went on for years! I finally convinced him to breach the subject with his wife and he was floored that she loved the idea. He wasn't into cleaning, but he loved the idea of other guys fucking and cumming in her. Long story short, she started fucking a guy she worked with and within a year she had cut my cousin off and was fucking several different guys. About 4 months after she cut him off he texted me that she was pregnant. He didn't know she had gone off of birth control but he was super-excited and told everyone she was having another baby just like it was his.
My point is this. Your fear is the only thing holding you back. Make her comfortable that it isn't about you fucking other women and you may be surprised at what she is willing to do.
Everything you said about your situation is almost identical to mine …
When I told my wife of this fantasy, her first thought was I wanted to have sex with other women. When I told her I also said that it was about her with other men and not me with other women. I thought she was mad and dropped it. Turns out she thought about it and did her own research on the topic and discovered the situation of me NOT wanting another women is common. After that she considered it more and cucked me a few months later.
Matt:
This intrigues me. I think you may have more potential here than you know.
That said, I encourage you to back away from anything that hurts her, or that she doesn’t like.
OK don’t back away … just … don’t. You want her to have all positive experiences when this is brought up. Passing off something as a joke is as transparent as it is lame.
Think of this as a seduction. Think of it as putting one piece of a puzzle after another into place.
From you to a 9.5 slab of unforgiving plastic? That’s quite an adjustment. That she did this is not unremarkable. And her feedback was not unhelpful.
Like her “saying it doesn’t feel like the real thing but still enjoys it.” You might have replied with something on the order of … “wow — when you put it that way … the real thing? How good WOULD that be …”
Lead her into this sloooowly …
More later.
Wifey here, the hubby broke it to me over the course of 2 years. It is all about communication and comfort. He started by starting a conversation of what turns each of us on and that moved to what type of porn we watched in private. I told him what I like (lesbian porn) and he told me what he liked (cuckold porn). Then we started incorporating some of that into the bedroom. He first asked me to make fun of his penis size and be more dominant. It was weird at first because I love his little cock but I also liked being more in control. Then he asked me about ex-boyfriend’s penis size and I let him know that my last boyfriend before I met him had a monster. I watched his cock get rock hard and start leaking when I told him about sex with my ex. Then I took a leap of faith and admitted I did a clone a Willy of his cock and still had it/occasionally used it on myself. We played with that for a while and one day he asked if we could take the next step. I didn’t want to but mainly because I thought it would ruin his ego. Eventually we decided to go to Vegas and hire a gigalo. That guy wrecked me and had me screaming and I watched in amazement at how it affected my husband. After the guy left we had the most amazing sex I have ever had. It hasn’t always been smooth but we are closer now than ever. I hope that helps!
yes it does. I try to kiss her or lick her to see if I can taste her lover.
Unless she brings home a present for you, the only way you can really tell is for an anywhere from a couple of hours to a couple of days her vagina will be dilated. That’s assuming of course he was big and she was fucked long and hard.
NEWBIEHotwife
Female
Play with the fantasy... and give it a little time... that worked for us.
November 2024, Hello wantabe cuckold(s). I am Robbie in Norman, Oklahoma, a bimale with a nice c*ck and nice tits.
If you want her to fuck other cocks then after you fuck her - start licking her pussy clean - do this every time you fuck her then after the 10th time - while you are licking her pussy - I am fantasizing that you fucked a cock earlier in the day and I am licking his cum from your pussy. It is all about pleasing you not my cock. I am OK being a sissy cuckold.
I want you to try this on your wife or GF - do this every time when you suck her tit. Suck her tit like a cock. Bounce or bobb your head on her tit just like you would if you were sucking a cock. Do this at least once a week. Third week, start sucking her tit then tell her that you are fantasizing. Hoping she says what are you fantasizing about. If not, suck her tit like a cock then just say -- I am fantasizing that I am sucking your tit like a cock. Don't wait - you say - tell me to suck your tit like a cock. When she tells you to suck her tit like a cock -- sucked harder and deeper.
Three more weeks -- start sucking her tit then you say - tell me to ask --- May I please suck your tit like a cock cause I am a sub sissy faggot cocksucker. Repeat it often to yourself and to her while you are sucking her tit. Yes I am a sub sissy faggot cocksucker - yes I am sucking your tit like a cock. Dry hump her while you are sucking her tit like a cock and you might just cum on her leg or in your panties.
Email me back (robbiewillsucku at gm ail) and tell me how she responded and what you are doing now to please her.
If you want her to fuck other cocks then after you fuck her - start licking her pussy clean - do this every time you fuck her then after the 10th time - while you are licking her pussy - I am fantasizing that you fucked a cock earlier in the day and I am licking his cum from your pussy. It is all about pleasing you not my cock. I am OK being a sissy cuckold.
I want you to try this on your wife or GF - do this every time when you suck her tit. Suck her tit like a cock. Bounce or bobb your head on her tit just like you would if you were sucking a cock. Do this at least once a week. Third week, start sucking her tit then tell her that you are fantasizing. Hoping she says what are you fantasizing about. If not, suck her tit like a cock then just say -- I am fantasizing that I am sucking your tit like a cock. Don't wait - you say - tell me to suck your tit like a cock. When she tells you to suck her tit like a cock -- sucked harder and deeper.
Three more weeks -- start sucking her tit then you say - tell me to ask --- May I please suck your tit like a cock cause I am a sub sissy faggot cocksucker. Repeat it often to yourself and to her while you are sucking her tit. Yes I am a sub sissy faggot cocksucker - yes I am sucking your tit like a cock. Dry hump her while you are sucking her tit like a cock and you might just cum on her leg or in your panties.
Email me back (robbiewillsucku at gm ail) and tell me how she responded and what you are doing now to please her.
Go slow and don't push her. If you pressure, it's over. And if you have a good marriage, well......in my view, a man would be a fool to risk it. Your wife is enjoying her dildo, and is most likely fantasizing about another man as she's using it (my wife once told me that she never thinks about me when she's getting off with her Hitachi) - that's the desired outcome. Some warm sexy afternoon after a glass or two of wine, - as you lay beside her, as she's in her "afterglow" after a vibrator/dildo orgasm, you might ask her: "who or what were you fantasizing about when you came? Watching you cum is a real rush!"
At some point, I'd almost bet that she'll ask you something like: "were you really serious when you said I should fuck another man?" What she's really asking you is: do you want another woman and why do you want me to have sex with someone else? The way you respond needs to reassure her that you love her and that you'd be totally turned on if she had sex with another guy. On her terms.
She was a virgin when you married her and this whole concept of her sharing herself with another man (of her choosing) is new to her. Might be frightening as that last thing she wants is ANYTHING that would threaten your marriage or that she might get pregnant with a lover. You have to assume that she's been conditioned by her parents, her peers, and maybe even her church that a married woman doesn't have sex with anyone but her husband.
‘I love you with all my heart, and I will always support you in whatever you decide. So long as you are safe and happily enjoying yourself, I’m good with whatever you want …’
That is the most important part, 100% yes! Then tell her you desire her and you want her to play with others, as that would satisfy your fantasy. Explain to her that it would be a huge turn on for you.
I think coming out and tell your wife you want to be a Cuck is quite frightening for a wife to hear. It radically changes her perspective of the marriage you have. We got married 20 years ago and my wife cheated on me several times, I knew about a few of them at the time (she didn’t know I knew) and I knew it turned me on but we never talked out it. Fast forward 15 odd years and we had made our successful through good time and bad and we started talking about opening up our relationship. It was something she really didn’t want to do, she thought it was a dangerous thing to do. A couple of years later and an ex had got in touch and there had been a lot of flirting back and forth and he had told her he worked in our area about once a month and that he generally stayed in Airbnbs on his own (hint, hint). I had found the messages by accident, and at first they made me really upset, but we talked about it and she told me she would never act on them it was just escapism. We continued to talk over the next few days and one night after sex I asked her to go for a drink with him for old times sake, and whatever happened would be ok and wouldn’t change the way I felt about her. After a few more days of us talking about it she decided to go for a drink with him and the rest as they say is history. They ended up having a meal, a few drinks and the most incredible sex. She saw him for the next 2 days while he was in our area and then for 3 days a month for about 6 months. As for us it was revolutionary, we were like best friends again. She couldn’t wait to tell me about her dates, she was floating on air all the time.
Our relationship is now better than it’s ever been, we are so close and we talk about everything. Everything we do is consensual and discussed in depth. I love my wife with all my heart she just happens to have relationships with other people.
Our relationship is now better than it’s ever been, we are so close and we talk about everything. Everything we do is consensual and discussed in depth. I love my wife with all my heart she just happens to have relationships with other people.
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happyhubbymi, I wouldn’t go there.
Those words change the focus from HER internal life to YOURS. This becomes what you want and your fantasy.
My proposed strategy limits my concern to her safety and happiness. Nothing beyond those two points!
Without saying it, this communicates to her that SHE gets to set her OWN goals and boundaries for HERSELF.
This makes the decision hers entirely!
Take care and have a good one!
Adventurous 1
Male
Communicate, communicate, communicate. Be honest but not over bearing, explain what it is exactly that you want. Answer all her questions honestly and listen to her concerns and fears. Be reassuring and compassionate and that you'll never think bad or disrespectful of her if she does this for you. Don't pressure her as this is a life changing decision you're asking her to consider doing, and she has to think about how it's going to affect her and your marriage. If she's against it then its over but if she's unsure then it's going to take time and patience. If she's seems intrigued by the idea then it'll be much easier to get her to accept your request. Bring up the suggestion during sex when she's excited and more open to the idea, but not every time, she needs time to process her feelings on the idea of going outside the marriage. Get her a body safe realistic porn star dildo with realistic feeling skin, and always warm it up before using as this makes it feel more real and comfortable, be sure to use plenty of lubricant or it'll cause discomfort. Stimulate her imagination, engage her curiosity and desires, keep her interest peaked. Take her out and have her dance and flirt with other men, tell her to not hold back but enjoy the fun and excitement. The more she thinks about it the better. Try watching porn, or read stories on the Internet. Let her know it's her decision and she'll have full control of how things work out. Tell her it'll be like having a first date all over again but with sex. Have her imagination how exciting it gonna be taking a new lover and not have to worry about guilt as she's doing what you both want. Try to convince her it's a great opportunity to spice up your sex life and explore pleasure she's never going to experience any other way. Be as positive as you can when taking to her about it.
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