How to find my Hotwife?

Mydream2024

Mydream2024

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I’m looking to find a real hotwife. I have dated over 25 gorgeous girls the last 2 years since my divorce and I cannot get any of them on board. Just one, but I felt she did it begrudgingly. They’re all want just want me and honestly I make them cum and squirt like they never have before, But I only get turned on when talking about them and having larger cock. I like talking about their past, bigger exes and how many partners they had and some of them get upset. I’ve been with a few size queens and they loved how I treated them, but wouldnt do anything outside of me. I’m very sexual with toys and sex swings and have 5 1/2 inches but know and understand more is better. They get so turned on by me wanting to know their past but also get upset. I’m not jealous. Most guys are jealous, I love it. I love dressing them up and going out and them getting attention. I’m good looking successful and will take care and provide for the right woman. They know how I live and they like it, but I don’t give $ to women only if I make them mine and we are fully committed . They know I see other women and I don’t cheat. I’m open honest and communicate well. But I just want that one special hotwife that seems impossible to find. I think it’s a dream life and it’s hard to understand all these women in their 30’s can have it all. I’m 48 don’t work much anymore and want to spend time catering, loving, sharing and vacationing with my Hotwife. I’m so confused more women don’t want this. Most women fall in love with me o have multiple gorgeous women and I’m freaky and like recording and hearing them tell me about their dirty past. I think they fall in love because I except and love a lot of what they get shamed for and feel bad about, stuff they hide from others they dated because they can’t be real and say what they really like and the inner whore in them can’t come out. After weeks of me trying I finally lose interest and move on and they don’t understand. I don’t say it because you won’t go fck other people I just say I’m sorry let’s just be friends and have fun. I would drop them all for a sexy hotwife. I’m 48 Italian good looking, in shape, charismatic and successful btw.
 
25 women and nobody is on board? You're not communicating it right. Around 80% of women I went out with said it's the hottest thing they ever heard of, especially when they realize it's all win for them. They get all the power and all the freedom, has to be the easiest sell ever.
 
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It’s not, i’m telling you they don’t want to share or they think it’s a test. I’m good looking in very good shape , confident, live a very good lifestyle and fck them good and make them cum and squirt to some pass out. Most have admitted to being size queens but don’t want it and say I do what they can’t or they don’t want or desire it. A few of the size queens I put a 9” dildo above my dick and they rode it wild. I have had a few threesome with some freinds some that where were larger and I didn’t feel girls enjoyed it, which makes it no fun . One had sex while I was away and couldn’t do it and walked out. It was her idea to give me a thrill. I think I am a little intimidating because I am very alpha, secure and handle my shit. I’m a girthy about 6” and can fck 3 times a day . Toys, swings, sex room and all. One of my ex girls fcked me up a few years ago saying I was too small for her and she liked bigger but would never cheat. I came across some pics of her ex’s and was blow away how tiny she was and took it. Either way I have very high standards and all the girls I date are mostly in 30 and gorgeous, I just get a little bored after a few weeks and work it in slow until I finally move on.
 
And obviously I am doing something wrong, you’re right. Im starting to think it’s not them, I think it’s my personality gives off those vibes of a bull, I am a bull at heart with an average cock though . I love satisfying women, multiple at a time as well. I guess my issue is I get turned on thinking of them taking very large.
 
If you are bringing this up when you first meet them 99% of women will never do it. You need to develop a relationship first before this even comes up. Seriously after a few dates and some talking it's really easy to talk to a women about sex if they like you. I wouldn't necessarily bring up that you want her to be a hotwife that early. However you can bring up swinging and going to club with her. The key here is a little self control and patiences.


I would almost Guarantee if she agrees to attend a swingers club you have no problem getting what you want.
 
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Sissy husband said:
25 women and nobody is on board? You're not communicating it right. Around 80% of women I went out with said it's the hottest thing they ever heard of, especially when they realize it's all win for them. They get all the power and all the freedom, has to be the easiest sell ever.
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Agreed
4 of the last 5 women i have been with long term, 2 ex wives and 3 ex gf, have participated. You cant start off on your first date saying "i fuck alot of chicks, therefore......."
 
I agree, but I’ve never mentioned the word hotwife once to any of them. A few threesomes I had with friends at the house, pool hot tub drinking and it happens. I also offered to share some of my girlfriends with friends in a fun way and they giggle and decline. It comes up in conversation and then in the bedroom, some get into the dirty talk, some just listen. Honestly, I think it’s a way women might want to think I want an open relationship really when it’s really just about them. That’s when it sounds to good to be true or they thinking I really like this guy maybe it’s a set up. I have had many bring other girls to the bedroom, they seem more turned on with that. A few women open up to me and wand to have other women or most want to watch me satisfy another, which I understand it’s like they are the cuck. I’m dating a lot of women mid 30s beautiful but have a lot of damage. Some slept with five men, others been with 100. I think they appreciate me because I’m open and honest with them like to hear their honesty and support them and never judge. A lot of their ex-boyfriend or guys they were with where insecure and judgemental. 90% say they have no want, need or desire for another man, I satisfy them in every way the other 10% say they like being filled up more and those are the ones that would ride a huge 9” fat dildo I would place above my dick and also with some put my dick In there ass. It was fun and amazing and they where so hot and amazed a man appreciate understood what they liked , but where not down be with other men. Oh, I also dress up my girls, tell them what to wear and put them in heels. Even when they go out with their girlfriends, which they love. And I’ve stuck a Bluetooth toy in many of them while they were out or while we were out and done a lot of fun stuff..
 
And I am a little aggressive and always say what’s on my mind. Never brought up hotwife but after a week or two I start to throw some kink in the mix. I like to learn about women what they like, and allows me to satisfy them to the fullest. I don’t scare them away but eventually after two or three weeks maybe a month I lose interest and move on. I was married 18 years been dating the last 3/4 years. I feel like I know what I want and don’t want to settle. There are many options
 
I dunno man, from the sound of it, you are a pretty intense dude. All this alpha shit works to find women to have sex with, but hotwifing isn’t about being forceful. You sound like you want to be a bull but have a wife you can introduce to other bulls? I guess I don’t get what you’re after.

Instead of opening up a relationship with being aggressive and pushing them toward fucking a bunch of people, maybe go to a swinger site. This isn’t necessarily that. Usually, people have healthy relationships, THEN decide to open it up, not the reverse.
 
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I have to agree with the above poster. I think you're misunderstanding what a Hotwife is. Sounds to me that maybe you want to be a bull for a couple with a Hotwife.

The reason I am on here is I want my wife who I been married a long time to experience things she hasn't. The other reality is I want my wife needs to be fulfilled. The appeal to me is allowing her to fulfill her needs means she be a lot more free and open with me as well.

The ideal situation for me is would be to find another couple were me and the other guy could be regular bulls to each other wives. However I would love to have a few young guys to really pound my wife while I watch so she gets a little variety. This may not be where everyone else is but what I want.

To me it sounds like you're looking for FWB that wants to swing and show off. If you just want to watch you may want to find club or house parties that take single men.
 
I never used the word hotwife as I didn't think they'd get it. I simply told them my dream relationship is one where the woman is in charge and has more freedom and power than the man. Many did initially say it's not for them but would call back the next day and say you know... I've been thinking about what you said after realizing there's no downside for them. Having the power to physically punish me is also what sealed the deal for my wife, she loves that.
 
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I never used the word hotwife as I didn't think they'd get it. I simply told them my dream relationship is one where the woman is in charge and has more freedom and power than the man. Many did initially say it's not for them but would call back the next day and say you know... I've been thinking about what you said after realizing there's no downside for them. Having the power to physically punish me is also what sealed the deal for my wife, she loves that.
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I get it, thinks it’s hard for them to see me In that role and are with me for the exact opposite. They say I give off total big dick energy and very dominant, aggressive in a good way. Some had said the where little surprise my dick wasn’t bigger but it never bothered me. It’s gets it done plus all the extras and the energy. I guess I just don’t carry myself properly for that role.
 
Can't tell by your picture but it looks like you may be on the masculine side so that may change the dynamic. I'm pretty fem which helped women understand my submissive side. Maybe for #26 let her know what you're into without making it sound like it came from a porn or swinger's site. Women love someone who communicates well, hope you connect soon!
 
I am, I work out, have a lot of energy and at a point I’m my life o just want to enjoy. I am a very good communicator and alway honest and don’t sugar coat shit. Maybe to much lol
 

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