I may have answered this already..........LONG story but on a weekend where I "went out for a few hours" on Friday evening, and disappeared until LATE Sunday night when a carload of LOUD Black guys dropped me off in front of my very upper middle class, all white neighborhood, home wearing one shoe, no panties, no bra, my skirt and blouse were ripped and soaked with cum, and my hair looked like a wicked witch of the west, LOL. Pretty much the last straw for hubby, what had been something to add spark to our relationship/sex life had become a home life destroying obsession for me and I was headed down a path he was not willing to tolerate (......, a zero tolerance for him). Three days later, when I was stable and able to hold a lucid conversaton, he simply told me it was my new lifestyle without him and our .............or give it up.
Wasn't the easiest choice I ever made, but with a by then 3 yo ...... and a good husband/family life, I elected to walk away from the lifestyle.
J (the wife)