How did it happen? What swung the deal for you? I mean what actually convinced you to get into it? What happened the first time?Diasspointed? More than expectations? What actually happened?
How did you convince your wife
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Gave another guy head on the 1st date! How did that work out? Random guy you came across.. just to prove her point? Or someone she got along to drive home her point?
I see this question asked a lot on sites like this. I think too many men are looking or hoping for some magical or trick thing to do or say to their lady to convince her. It did take me probably a year and a half to convince my wife to consent but it was simple persistence on my part. She told me after our first successful MMF that she was going to do it one time just to get me to qut bugging her about it. Luckily we had a good time and ended up in the lifestyle for nearly 30 years. Just be truthful and get her to talk about it. Ultimately if you can't talk her into it you will not get to see her fucking and sucking another man. Go to page one on Elaine's First Time thread in the Share Your Real Stories Forum is you want to see how we started, both our first failure and first success
if you need to convince her you are headed for troubles, it is something that she would agree to, the best course for you to take is to bring up how you feel and see how she reacts, if it is a hard no, then back off, if she doesn't shut the idea down then you can proceed. try a little role playing, then take her out and see how she reacts when other men approach her, then see where that goes
I also love reading and hearing about the failures. Cuckold experience that went wrong. When my wife first gave me the ok I had to find someone.
I did my searching at sex parties and actually met our first bull there. But while asking guys I thought was suitable for us one guy told me to think long and hard before going ahead with it then told me of his failed attempt.
In his case he begged and begged till she finally gave in.
She just laid there as the bull was fucking her with no emotion. When it was finally over she started yelling at him, “are you satisfied?”
And I read of similar experiences. But I always knew that for me to be happy in my marriage at needed to take this step.
I am one of the successful cuckold stories but there are many that did not end up happy.
I did my searching at sex parties and actually met our first bull there. But while asking guys I thought was suitable for us one guy told me to think long and hard before going ahead with it then told me of his failed attempt.
In his case he begged and begged till she finally gave in.
She just laid there as the bull was fucking her with no emotion. When it was finally over she started yelling at him, “are you satisfied?”
And I read of similar experiences. But I always knew that for me to be happy in my marriage at needed to take this step.
I am one of the successful cuckold stories but there are many that did not end up happy.
jane don
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From people my wife & I have known---It seems that most of the time things started with Playful times & making the other person feel Sooo desirable & appreciated Fun without sex to--Laughter being Helpful & positive attitude (mainly from the guy--what you give you tend to get back tenfold- Making her feel Special in & out of bed -- taking Pictures of each other then as some swinging with other singles or couples (often after showing off the pictures) Playful times-Long before the hot wife thing-
jane don
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My wife & I were in the swinging lifestyle for pushing 30yrs--& our experience says -most cuckold marriages Do end up happy--It's just that you don't usually Know that your neighbors/Family members/Co-Workers ect are into the lifestyle & bad news travels faster & is more widespread than Good news-
I can say with certainty that it helped our marriage. Not that we were heading for divorce but I’m not sure I could’ve kept her happy sexually for all these years.
I have the size (about 9”) but the drive to fuck her day in day out was slipping away from me.
And deep down I always knew I was more satisfied watching than fucking.
jane don
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Yea---Life is strange that way for some of us--even as a teenager I loved when my girlfriends went with other guys but was Afraid to tell them- & still under 20 moved in with an Older woman--came home from work one day & she "Confessed" she had Kissed a neighbor --That really turned me on-- We broke up latter--& while I was single I used to masturbate to the thought of her having sex with other men--
Criticalkink
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He was a friend of hers from back in her home state. Long story short he wanted to hear my band play that night and of course he had no idea how to get to the club so she rode with him to show him the way. On the way to the club she sucked his dick and during my first break she told me she sucked his dick on the way to the club and then introduced me to him. Its a hell of a way to break the ice for sure.
Criticalkink
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And there’s nothing like a wife who loves to play. I had a older man I used to work with who was ex-military and he was so regimented at work I told him one day, “I bet when you and your wife have sex it’s only on Tuesdays from 1930 to 1945, cum or no cum.“ To his credit he laughed about it.
Love this... The rules are set from the very 1st date on
aliasour
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At this point in our marriage have stopped playing mind games with my wife. I have told her straight up that I want to gangbang her with a bunch of dudes and turn it into a private porn movie. There might even be some domination involved. Parts of the video (with faces obscured) may even be posted on our pornhub channel. She has answered with an enigmatic “we will see” and a more categorical “not during COVID”. So I guess we will see when things open up 😛
That's how it was for us.
I kept it up for years (badgered) until she finally agreed to do it (she planned on once only) to shut me up. She took to it like a duck to water, 18 months, 100+ different partners, many repeats, 2 regulars, 2 GBs.
Now she is fully on board and would give me up before the lifestyle.
Didn't take any convincing for us. Had roleplayed and fantasized together for several years in college. Within a couple of months after graduating and getting married and moving to our first jobs, we met a high school senior who hung around our apartment pool. He took to Stacey and flirted and doted on her for a few weeks that went from compliments to playful touching in the pool, to applying sun tan lotion on each other. We continued to talk about it in bed but now we had an actual person to talk about. Over a couple of weeks her desire for him became more and more apparent to us both. I asked her whether she wanted to go through with it and she said she might - wasn't sure. I didn't directly ask again. Within days she asked me if I would run some errands for her Saturday morning. She asked me if I'd be OK if Robby came by to do some chores at our apartment. That was the beginning.
I just tell my men friends I own my body and I will use it how I want, If I want another guy I will have him and that goes for women as well, I their not into hat, it's good bye
It took several years of talk and encouragement befroe my wife gave it a shot. She is very jealous and her main concern was that she did not want me to play with other women. She didn't understand why I would let her play and not expect the same in return. However, she is much younger than me and has a very high sex drive. We finally came to an agreement that she could play with others and I would remain faithful as long as I got the sex I needed. She has always made sure to take care of me after playing outside of our marriage.
There have been a couple of times where I have been there while she played and participated. Most of her play time is one on one with her friends. I have only met a couple of her lovers. Ironically, her first successful encounter was with a mutual friend. He was originally her friend, but we became friends as I mentored him career wise. One night, they went out for drinks and she seduce do him. It was super hot and even though he knew I was fine with her playing, he still didn't want me to know out of fear it would affect my mentoring of him. In the end, he never found out that I knew and my career advice was spot on and he was able to get a better job in another town several hours away. I think they still talk, but it was one and done with him.
For now, COVID has really slowed down her play. It has been months since she has had another cock to play with. Hoping for better next year!
There have been a couple of times where I have been there while she played and participated. Most of her play time is one on one with her friends. I have only met a couple of her lovers. Ironically, her first successful encounter was with a mutual friend. He was originally her friend, but we became friends as I mentored him career wise. One night, they went out for drinks and she seduce do him. It was super hot and even though he knew I was fine with her playing, he still didn't want me to know out of fear it would affect my mentoring of him. In the end, he never found out that I knew and my career advice was spot on and he was able to get a better job in another town several hours away. I think they still talk, but it was one and done with him.
For now, COVID has really slowed down her play. It has been months since she has had another cock to play with. Hoping for better next year!
I love it when a woman knows what she wants and isn't afraid to go get it! You go girl!
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