Girlfriend left me for her lover

[Takemoment]

We have been talking to a therapist for last few months as it is our goal to preserve the marriage while living a highly non standard lifestyle. Our therapsit does not condone what we are doing but we have the therapist to advise us in the best way for our situation even if it isn't what they reccomend. We have met with the therapist as a couple,solo and recently her lover was invited in for a session. We have had very frank conversations, therapist asked point blank if my wife would leave me for him, would she continue being shared if she was in a relationship with him exclusively so on and such forth.

I learned a few interesting things. No plans to leave me now or in the future. No plans to end things with her lover now or in future, so it appears we are in this for sometime. She did however say that if for some reason anything changed and she did wind up with him or anyone else she would likely continue being shared. Although she was not the one that requested this situation she does feel it is something she has adopted as part of her sexual dynamic and is not of the mindset that she would ever be able to stop.

So I do like our situation but I never asked for this as it is but it sounds like I am in for the long haul.

I never asked to be a cuckold either and never would have thought I would be okay being cuckolded. I often wonder why some men accept being a cuckold, including myself.
Is it because we love our wife so much that we are willing to share her.
We are afraid of losing her so we accept the fact that she fucks another man.
Do we think we deserve to be a cuckold, that we are not good enough sexually?
Does it reinforce how we feel about ourselves as a man, that we are not? manly enough, or not endowed enough or we feel we cannot perform as a man should
Do we like to be viewed inferior by our wives or by her bulls?
Are we sexually attracted to men but afraid to admit it?
Does it take the pressure off of us to be lovers who can sexually satisfy our wives, that another man does it for us?

I wonder what your therapist has said about you and why you accept being a cuckold.

 

[Phun Times 727]

I never asked to be a cuckold either and never would have thought I would be okay being cuckolded. I often wonder why some men accept being a cuckold, including myself.
Is it because we love our wife so much that we are willing to share her.
We are afraid of losing her so we accept the fact that she fucks another man.
Do we think we deserve to be a cuckold, that we are not good enough sexually?
Does it reinforce how we feel about ourselves as a man, that we are not? manly enough, or not endowed enough or we feel we cannot perform as a man should
Do we like to be viewed inferior by our wives or by her bulls?
Are we sexually attracted to men but afraid to admit it?
Does it take the pressure off of us to be lovers who can sexually satisfy our wives, that another man does it for us?

I wonder what your therapist has said about you and why you accept being a cuckold.

So for clarification I am not a cuckold. This started with a fantasy I had of watching my wife have a one time 3some with 2 men and I would watch. Once I revealed this and talked her into it the issue became who and how, we tried to make a compromise and stumbled and eventually it became she would find someone and we would do a 3some but I would be part of it. We have been doing so for 6 months now. It morphed from inviting him to join us to solo visits with him, weekends away, travel etc. Now we have two parallel relationships for her, one with me and one with him and at times they coincide and we have a MFM. I don't hate it but it is certainly not what I had fantisized about and presented to my wife.

Therapist has issues with a ton of things. What prompted me to have such a fantasy, what made her agree, how did she accept another relationship, what is the boyfriends intent, how do we balance our lives, what is long term goal etc etc. So what questions I get are a little different as I didn't move towards cuck nor am I living a cuck life (at least not yet!).

 

[nicebiguy]

My ex left me for one of her bulls. She had lots. She would see him fairly often and come back to me to clean her out. After she left , he started to send her to me to fuck the shit out of her so he could clean her out. How funny is that.

That's hot as hell, ever think of hooking up with him? Seems the next step since you're already eating each others cum.

 

[nicebiguy]

If it was me I would gift wrap myself and kneel at her doorstep and ring the bell.

Me too, he's already endured the pain of breaking up so whats to loose by hooking up again, might even turn into a regular thing.

 

[Mark_and_Julia]

Don't think it's ever "over".

Before I met Julia, I dated a woman who needed a break every few months to date other people. I know she was dating this one guy in her office, and clearly having sex with him. It was a turn on for both of us for years actually, discussing it - especially in bed. Then she left and ended up marrying him. A few years later they divorced. She came on to me again, especially about their sex stories - but I had moved on. Like I said, "over" is relative. 😎

 

[droopy1]

I never asked to be a cuckold either and never would have thought I would be okay being cuckolded. I often wonder why some men accept being a cuckold, including myself.
Is it because we love our wife so much that we are willing to share her.
We are afraid of losing her so we accept the fact that she fucks another man.
Do we think we deserve to be a cuckold, that we are not good enough sexually?
Does it reinforce how we feel about ourselves as a man, that we are not? manly enough, or not endowed enough or we feel we cannot perform as a man should
Do we like to be viewed inferior by our wives or by her bulls?
Are we sexually attracted to men but afraid to admit it?
Does it take the pressure off of us to be lovers who can sexually satisfy our wives, that another man does it for us?

I wonder what your therapist has said about you and why you accept being a cuckold.

Out of all of those things, the one I most identify with is that I like to be viewed as inferior by my wife and her lover. I think it goes back to my youth when I was always teased and bullied not just by tough guys but also by girls. I used to be called a sissy by the girls and hated it till one point like magic I suddenly liked it. It happened during puberty when I got my first sexual feelings and discovered masturbation. Like most other guys I took a sexual intrest in girls but there was a twist. My experience with girls prior to this was being teased and called a sissy. There were some girls who accepted me and I hung out with them as a young prepubesent boy. I had no intrest in sports or guy things. As I became a teen the girls I hung out with got interested in guys but I wasn't gay, I was hot for girls just like the other guys. The problem was that I was effeminate and sissy like. By then I was cross dressing but finding a girlfriend who was attracted to a sissy was impossible. A lot of guys and girls made fun of me. I tried to change and be more masculine but my sissy nature always reclaimed me. Whenever I tried to start a relationship with a girl I would always fail. When I failed I would revert back to wearing girls clothing and masturbating. Being in panties and girls clothes and jerking off became a replacement for having a girlfriend. It was an easy way out and I never had to risk that painful rejection. I discovered something else about myself. I did at one point manage to get a rather pouplar girl to have sex with me. I knew by now my best bet was to put on a more masculine demeanor and I was still trying to be a regular guy. At this point I had two sides my familliar and reliable sissy side and the other side of me that wanted to date and have sex with girls. I found this girl who was a bit older and known to be 'easy' and saw an oppurtunity. We went out and when we got into it she started laughing and said I was too small. The condom was too loose to stay on and was only a quarter of the way unrolled. She used a term I never heard of before 'micropenis' she called me a micro but then apologized. She kept saying she was sorry. I wasn't sure if she was saying that because she laughed or because I had a tiny penis. The thing was,during all this I had an orgasm all while she was laughing at me. Up to that point I was a virgin and just thought I was normal size.The date was a disaster and she told a few people who were not suprised. I looked up the term micropenis and measured myself and she was right,I was a micro. Some girls in highschool started calling me 'microboy' and that sealed my fate. I learned to live watching other guys have girls that I was only able to pine for. I guess that is how my cuckolding nature developed.

 

[Skilled rabbit]

My wife left me for over a month to be with her boyfriend then she wanted to come home she said she wouldn't cheat anymore so I let her come home and the next day she took off walking she called someone to pick her up around the corner from our house she came home later like nothing happened

 

[Ht805cpl]

It's official..... And it's not a fantasy.My girlfriend left me and now we're just friends.....
I told you about the her being in love with her colleague. She told me that when she is with him , she doesn't miss me and she can not let me touch her because now she belongs to him.

She told me that we can remain friends and I am allowed to watch their sex.

I expected this because she didn't have sex with me since April and she was spending way more time with him than me . She also told me that he's enough for him and he can satisfy him sexually way better than me .

As I heard it it was a mix feeling of sadness and being turned on. But honestly I was really turned on and horny. I am sure that I am a looser cuckold....

What would you expect, allowing your girl friend to fuck around, if she is not devoted to you but fucking other guys, of course she is going to leave or cut you off. Perhaps next time you should thing the thing out before allowing a gf to be fucking other men!

 

[BBWStacy]

At this point my wife and I have just dipped our toe in. She’s given 2 car HJ’s. One of those guys is meeting with us Saturday night for a hj/titfuck. Now, she’s agreed that she will ease her way into getting fucked. Like the next meeting he slides in her doggy for 30 seconds so she can slowly acclimate. Maybe fucking is the next meeting.

That said, I’ve set up a system where only I am in contact with the Bull. She doesn’t note his name, or how to reach him. Also, he arrives and must put on a full plastic face mask. She is masked also. To avoid her perhaps thinking he’s handsome. I also chose somebody that’s same physique and age range as me. Speaking isn’t allowed during meeting. There’s certainly no kissing, caressing, hugging or any of that. She’s not going to be going on dates. I will always be present. We aren’t chillin’ together before or after. I’d never be down for any of that. It’s just a cock. He shows up, gets his cock worked, and bye.

For me this isn’t about having my wife enjoy sex more with somebody else, because I’m small (I’m not I don’t think, I’m 7”) or anything like that. I want to see her act like a slut, and to me that’s with another cock. That’s not to say I don’t think I’m inferior, I do - I cum too fast so I really can’t pound the hell out her. But I don’t want to feel that way, I’m doing this to see her be a pornstar

But all the safeguards above are designed to limit any of the “she loves him” stuff.

 

[droopy1]

What would you expect, allowing your girl friend to fuck around, if she is not devoted to you but fucking other guys, of course she is going to leave or cut you off. Perhaps next time you should thing the thing out before allowing a gf to be fucking other men!

OUCH ! The dreded friend zone.

 

[toolman2c]

Cuckold, yes. Loser, maybe not.

I think this is a risk of the lifestyle. On a positive note, since you were not married, there will not be the expense and stress of a divorce. Personally, I would drop out of touch with the ex-girlfriend. You might take some time to reflect on the experience, and once you start dating again you will likely find another girlfriend.

The question that remains to be seen is if you will pursue the cuckold lifestyle once again.

Im thinking he has found his 'calling' and will want a BETTER cuckold relationship rather than a normal one, IMHO

 

[toolman2c]

At this point my wife and I have just dipped our toe in. She’s given 2 car HJ’s. One of those guys is meeting with us Saturday night for a hj/titfuck. Now, she’s agreed that she will ease her way into getting fucked. Like the next meeting he slides in her doggy for 30 seconds so she can slowly acclimate. Maybe fucking is the next meeting.

That said, I’ve set up a system where only I am in contact with the Bull. She doesn’t note his name, or how to reach him. Also, he arrives and must put on a full plastic face mask. She is masked also. To avoid her perhaps thinking he’s handsome. I also chose somebody that’s same physique and age range as me. Speaking isn’t allowed during meeting. There’s certainly no kissing, caressing, hugging or any of that. She’s not going to be going on dates. I will always be present. We aren’t chillin’ together before or after. I’d never be down for any of that. It’s just a cock. He shows up, gets his cock worked, and bye.

For me this isn’t about having my wife enjoy sex more with somebody else, because I’m small (I’m not I don’t think, I’m 7”) or anything like that. I want to see her act like a slut, and to me that’s with another cock. That’s not to say I don’t think I’m inferior, I do - I cum too fast so I really can’t pound the hell out her. But I don’t want to feel that way, I’m doing this to see her be a pornstar

But all the safeguards above are designed to limit any of the “she loves him” stuff.

Im sorry to say this, you have tried hard to lower the risk of loosing her, BUT i think your plan will fail in the long run, if you want this, let her see and enjoy All the pleasures of a new cock up inside her yearning hot pussy, im thinking if you see her barebacked and flooded with his seeds, , you BOTH will be hooked ., think indepth what that would be like before yoy comment,, good luck.