Get a Divorce or Cuck! I chose Cuck!
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Feeling inadequate is one of my fears for certain! I realize there will always be bigger, better men out there and truthfully what good would it be if her experience was something less than her typical experience with you? However witnessing it, hearing it or being told about it is whole different thing, one I haven't experienced yet and the more I think about it the more hesitant I'm becoming.
Several times I read wives say that they no longer "looked" at their husband's in the same way. That they no longer had the same respect for them that they once had. That's not very appealing to me. I know not all wives say or feel that but, it's a risk nonetheless.
I also know that I crave sex. I'll never want less sex. I've never felt like I've had as much sex as I'd like. Too often these stories come out where the wife loses interest in having sex with the husband. Too often it turns into some kind of mild denial and flares up into full blown "pussy free". No thanks!
I have no idea how my wife would respond. I've never seen her sexually obsessed. I wish I could inspire that in her. If some guy could swoop in and in one night flip her switch to become sex crazed I'm not sure how I'd feel after trying for decades to achieve. That would be something I'd carry a long time. It really comes down to trusting your wife. If she really loves you she'll protect you. She'll know what to do.
That’s the thing.
The better the relationship, the less the likelihood that nothing some guy does in the saddle is going to short out the years or decades you lived your lives together. Where that happens, I pretty much read it that the relationship was a facade.
What if embracing your desires means not losing your partner, but rather inviting her to explore new heights of passion with you through the participation of another partner for her?
My wife clearly favored her boytoy to me and I issued an ultimatum, me or him. Sonja told me that I didnt want to go there. I didn't and became an accomodating husband.
I have read some serious horror stories about cuck relationships gone wrong and you're right. There is serious risk there. We've been together for 14 years so I'd like to think we have a strong connection but you never really know until you know.
I suspect that trusting relationships where husband and wife support each other's sexual desires, including sex with other people, is less common than appears on this site. There is a lot of cheating, but that is not the open, honest type of relationship that people discuss on this site. I suspect that cheating frequently, if not mostly ends the relationship.
I am older, coming of age when feminists influenced some men's thinking including mine, for example the idea that men should not view women in solely sexual terms and that anything less than a written consent form was assault (sarcasm). At the same time, I was raised with the traditional family values stuff. To make matters worse, I grew up in a single-parent household before it became fashionable, without male role models and guidance about dating, etc. Throw in that the internet did not exist until I was much older. End result: I never indulged in my sexual desires until really late in life. I might have with several women had they and I honestly conversed about sex, and had we disregarded what feminists, traditionalists, and society in general thought about our desires.
I agree with you. There's a lot of ground work that has been done to get to this point. If that counts for nothing then it was a sham, a shell of of what you thought it was.
The draw is exactly the thing. Will it result in better and more fulfilling sex life for the both of us? Would the risk be worth activating something you've wanted in her that you haven't been able to achieve. This has been my biggest mental block, if someone else can do this and I can't. The more I think about it the more I realize I'd understand why it would happen.
