my wife & i could have had a relationship similar to some described here.
i encouraged my wife to have sex with one of my AF buddies back in the late 60s. i have no idea where that thought came from. there was no internet, or any other media to influence my thoughts .
we, eventually, separated in early 80s & she took on a wild streak. she fucked 3-4 of her current, & former, co-workers. those were the ones i knew about. even my buddies knew what she was doing, through a friend of a friend who connected the dots & it got back to me.
we eventually divorced & she married one of her co-workers. we reconnected after #2 died & then the fun, really started. she started fucking one of the neighbors. she also admitted she'd have no trouble doing a black guy & she would have played with one of her female neighbors, if given the chance.
she told me how she masturbated, what her thoughts were & how she played with her body. i bought her a couple of vibrators & she gave me a set of handcuffs for my birthday. she also told me she liked sex a little on the rough side & would have no trouble being blindfolded & let an unknown guy into the bedroom as long as i was there to monitor.
i, then, found her a guy to entertain her while she was in her 70s.
if i knew, or understood, what my thoughts were, back in the 60s & 70s, we might never had divorced. we could have had a lifetime of fun & adventures. because of me not recognizing my fantasies, & she being shy & not flirtatious, we wasted 30 years of fun.
note to younger couples, life is short. explore your mutual likes & thoughts & live life as you wish. if you don't, someday you will lament all the things you didn't do, or try.
previously, i have posted snippets of her behavior, here &, on other sites. this is the first time i have related this much detail.
i still love that little lady & miss her every day. sometimes, life ends way to early.