Frustration
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My wife is exactly the same, while it certainly frustrates me, I know why she is like that. I know she prefers to have someone that is genuinely into her rather than a once off use of her pussy. In some ways I prefer her to have a regular boyfriend bull, but at the same time she's shy and a lot of guys don't persue her enough.
I think the sexual fantasy for him might be the more primal side, seeing you being brought to orgasm and experiencing pleasure. (Knowing why does he want you to do this in his words would be helpful)…
For you like many people, you’re looking for a connection more than the primal side which is probably brought on by a stronger desire for security.
I think many things come down to personality types and priorities.
My wife needed that connection..we are both professionals and sometimes it was her profession that some of her lovers were also in..made it easy...she was in the medical field. I am in the business arena, so a couple of her men were like me which made for a good connection.
Over all, she , 90% of the time, wanted a connection..of course, sometimes it just happened, like in the islands with a security guard, masseuse, and a night manager..something about the islands...
Over all, she , 90% of the time, wanted a connection..of course, sometimes it just happened, like in the islands with a security guard, masseuse, and a night manager..something about the islands...
Never do anything just to please others ... you should be happy and want to do what's best for you too
Exactly my wifes situation. She feels she needs to have a connection before proceeding with another man. I wont push and bring the subject up occasionally. The decision to proceed I believe has to be hers. That way it will decrease the possibility of regret if and when we move forward with this experience. It may never happen but Im ok either way because I want the desire to come from her.
I don't think having standards is a bad thing at all. He can't expect that you would have to fuck everything on two legs just because
I feel this is probably an extremely small percentage of the population.
For most people who feel this way, it could be so many things. Situational issues, biases, stress, psychological thought patterns, hormone issues. Or just flat out not being in the same room with someone who drops the pheromones that really do it for you.
Anything to give us wannabes some hope right?
I'm in the same situation. I enjoy the fantasy but am always looking for it to become a reality within her control. I want her to feel free, sexual and empowered by this thing.
I just want to let you know, what you are feeling is totally normal! Most of us are raised to connect sex and romantic relationships with the one we love. So the first leaps are usually the most difficult ones.
When ever people usually first tries opening up their relationships, they usually have some pretty strict rules to play by. I would suggest to maybe loosen up those rules ( if you have such). be patient and keep looking for a guy, you feel attracted to, that you connect with on a more romantic and emotionally level. Be very open about how you feel, don’t let your boyfriend feel left out. Ensure you boyfriend that you love him.
Talk about what kind of guy that attracts you, set you standards high and don’t settle for less. If you get disappointed to many times, you will most likely loose interest in the lifestyle.
Go on dates, but don’t be afraid to reject them or go slow! In the end our feelings are way more important than a fantasy!
I hope some of these advises can be of any help. As I said most of us have been in the same boat as you. Good luck with your journey!
When ever people usually first tries opening up their relationships, they usually have some pretty strict rules to play by. I would suggest to maybe loosen up those rules ( if you have such). be patient and keep looking for a guy, you feel attracted to, that you connect with on a more romantic and emotionally level. Be very open about how you feel, don’t let your boyfriend feel left out. Ensure you boyfriend that you love him.
Talk about what kind of guy that attracts you, set you standards high and don’t settle for less. If you get disappointed to many times, you will most likely loose interest in the lifestyle.
Go on dates, but don’t be afraid to reject them or go slow! In the end our feelings are way more important than a fantasy!
I hope some of these advises can be of any help. As I said most of us have been in the same boat as you. Good luck with your journey!
Before connecting with my late wife she had sex with anyone/everyone that wanted it. In later years when I tried to get her into hotwifing she suddenly needed a connection to do it. It took a while but we finally broke though that barrier and she went back to anyone/everyone.
My wife is not into cuckold play at all and i respect her the way she is. So should your husband if he wants to proceed with the game.
He has to understand that it is okay for you to be picky and take time picking your "fuck-friend". If he says it is for your pleasure, he will let you choose and take your time on your own.
He must fall in love with your inner "slut". He must be ready to wait home and do errands while you are having fun with your fuck-friend.
It takes time both for you and him. For you to pick the right partner who turns you on mentally and physically, able to hold conversation with you and please you sexually.
For him to fully let of his ego and fully embrace yohr iner slut on YOUR terms, not his. If you want to stay at your fuck-friends place and get your insides rearranged, he must not only let you do it but be proud of you and how you enjoy. If you want your new fuck friend to finger you in the backseat while your husband drives, your husband has to obey it. It is for your pleasure after all.
Few men are ready for this kind of play. They must let all of their dominance to their spouse and let go of their male ego so she can spread her sexual wings. FULLY.
Dejligt at vi ikke er alene i DK der nyder flere tyre til mig Q *SF*
