You are soo right. I have watched many guys cocks and balls pulse as they filled my partners with cum, then the fun really began, because its my turn. I love the feel of another guys cum as my partners lubricant
I love to watch her sucking a man's cock the first time, feed him her long nipples before having him lick her pussy and finally fuck her. Never have really figured it out but after nearly 30 years I still get a kick out of it
I think the best aspect of the Cuckold/Hotwife lifestyle is the many different angles and complexities for people to enjoy. If you can find something that works for you and your partner just enjoy it and do not worry about what other people think or say. I love reading and talking to other folks about their kinks and fetishes