I fetishize over hearing about my wife KK’s past sexual experiences. She’s aware of this, and leverages it exquisitely to manipulate and torment me sexually.
As a consequence of some couples therapy/counseling we attended years ago, we’ve somewhat formalized this, turning it into a sort of event, or game we call “Confession.”
Once or twice a month, we have a sort of dedicated ‘date night’ - an outing, sometimes with an overnight hotel stay, where one or the other of us acts as “confessor,” while the other listens. The confessor describes either a past sexual encounter, or a fantasy, accurately, honestly, and in detail - the listener gets to guess whether the event is true, a confession of some past encounter, or a fantasy, yet to be realized.