Decoding my wife 😆

[TommyFunn]

My wife can be forward when she wants to be, but it seems that she isn't always sure about what she wants. Guys, feel free to chime in if you want and ladies, please translate this into male understanding if you think you can. So as I have mentioned in other posts, my wife had her a nice 40th birthday cruise with her best friend who is also married. While on her cruise, she meets a jamaican bartender who served her drinks. She flirted with him a little and admits that she finds him attractive. The last two times we've had sex she mentions him and how he would enjoy her like I was at the time. I play along and finish shortly after. Now they are friends on Instagram. There has been very little flirting but some is there for sure. She got the idea about possibly exchanging sexy photos with him but is scared of seeing his package. She's worried about being disappointed in it's size. I found his profile and asked her if she wanted me to message him for her and she said no that she was still nervous about finding out it isn't all that. I think she wants to keep him a fantasy and she doesn't want it ruined. She imagines him to be long and thick. That's my only thought anyway. She seems interested in ...... with him even though that is likely not going to happen. She won't go online to find anyone even though I suggested we take it slow. Someone tell me what YOU think she wants. I'll answer more questions should you think of any. When I talk to her she seems conflicted and says "I don't know" a lot. I'm not being pushy I'm just trying to figure out what she wants. I thought a woman could figure it out possibly.

 

[coastalkid]

If she says something like she's worried that his cock is not going to be "all that" she has imagined, then that's something right there. She makes it sound like if he WAS attractive AND he WAS well endowed then she has given the impression that she would consider it. There is the aspect that she may feel like she missed her window of opportunity during the cruise. She didn't have to worry any further than what her friend might say anything about and other than that there wouldn't be a need for overt secrecy. She may have seen that as the perfect opportunity that slipped away. Still, that means she almost did follow through.

It sounds a lot like she stepped to the edge and backed off. That in and of itself can be translated as, "I'm sure tempted but not all the way there in my head." It's in her head, obviously. The thoughts are there.

I can only say what I would think, please don't take it as advice. The only thing that I can think of is to let those thoughts tumble round in her head for a while. They'll surface again if there's anything there. If the idea has taken hold even in the slightest she'll give off signals. If you press it she'll be able to explain to herself and to you that it came at your suggestion mainly.

There's a big difference between saying a firm, irrefutable NO to "I don't know". You're wise to not be pushy.