She is my wife, but he controls what she does with her pussy. I don't really have a say in that, but that's okay for me. I think it has made the loving bond between me and my wife stronger. Acceptance that things aren't always the way as I prefer them is part of that. As she has a lover for sex, I think it's logical if he has a say in how he prefers her pussy, even though that's not how I prefer her pussy. She knows I don't like her hairy pussy, but her lover's opinion was more important to her. So when he asked her to stop shaving, she didn't hesitate for a moment and immediately agreed.
She relies on me to clean her up, and she loves being eaten out by me. That's something she really enjoys. Her lover rarely eats her pussy, if he does it's usually not as long as I do. I spend a lot of time on eating my wife's pussy, so she still relies mainly on me for oral sex.