For me, it is the desire to know that my wife is fully satisfied in all aspects of Her life. i know that no one person can meet all the needs of another, so i am grateful that She can meet someone who fills another part of Her life which i can't. Simultaneously, to see how exhilarated and liberated She feels while humiliating me with the ease with which She speaks privately with him and seeing Her confidence as a woman grow is something for which i am also very grateful for Her. She has carte blanche with this as long as she is always safe because i trust Her and we maintain open communication at all times. That has been essential in the beginning in allaying insecurities and any fear of a distance growing.