Your situation is interesting, when my wife first became a hotwife (we were highschool sweethearts and were each others first), a friend of a friend picked her up in a bar...he knew she was married but ending up seducing her in her suburban in the parking lot. It was about 5 months into their "cheating" relationship my wife wanted to let him know that I knew all along.... We ended up going to his house and for the first time got to watch them have sex, it was more than that though as the passion between them was out of this world...she ended up telling me that her friend really wanted to have a ...... with her and what did I think.....he wanted to be involved in raising the ....... I asked her what her thoughts were and was surprised to hear her tell me she wanted to discuss it with me...meaning she was considering it...she actually started talking of the different ways "the story" behind it would be, like separating for a bit and then she hooked up with this guy....she disclosed at this point she "loved him" but wanted our marriage the most...long story short she decided against it but that NRE (new relationship energy) can be strong. Their relationship lasted for about 2.5 years.....