Hi, this is Amy and I want to thank you all for your honest and open sharing of feelings with us. Your thoughts, comments and advice has put a new light on a somewhat not so bright problem. Letting Mike post my pictures so others can see me naked is in a small way kind of a sexual outlet. When we talked about me having sex with other men that didn't sound appealing to me. Knowing that men were looking at my pictures was allowing me to fantasize about it. In the mind is one thing, in the flesh is another. I said for better or worse (I'm lucky, I haven't seen the worst yet!!) Communication is key, as one of you said, but now it's moving in both directions instead of just one. I have to agree with my husband, I too am glad we found this site. I need to get my head fully wrapped around what Ann mentioned in her comment about a three-some. That just might be the answer. It does mean I will have intercourse with another man as Mike has been asking me to do but it also involves him in the sexual process. In my small narrow mind I see it as I could have sex with another man but I promised to only make love to my husband! I need to work on myself and think about this some more but without all your comments we would still be in the total dark with the back and forth conversation of the "surrogate" lover. Thanks to you all for caring enough to write us.
Amy 🙂