For many years I dated women whom I could NEVER tell about my love for cock. The ones who found out...well, that didn't end well at all. Every one of them let me go, citing feelings of inadequacy because "they could never fulfill that need" (their words...not mine). No matter how hard I fought to keep them, they were done.
When I got with the girl I'm with now, she was up front that monogamy was not in her vocabulary at all. I took a risk and told her that I love to suck dick. She has been nothing short of encouragement in getting me EXTREMELY comfortable with this part of myself. She told me that this is a hardwired pleasure activity that I would be "white knuckling" to deny, and that I need to submit to this pleasure, that it is a biological need. The first time she watched me suck dick, she saw for herself just how into myself I get. She then told me "I will not keep this a secret regardless of how you feel about it."
She's told everyone, and the side benefit is that it's gotten me so much cock to suck.