Think I could be getting close?
We are in our early 50s so my feelings are if this is going to happen it needs to happen soon. Have been chipping away at my wife of 23 years over the last year or two, a familiar pattern has been followed, told her I found the idea of her having other lovers was a turn on & got a very doubtful response from her, thinking it is a trap for her etc, how can you think of that if you love me etc…
She was promiscuous before we met, cheated on some of her previous lovers & indeed left her husband of 8 years to be with me. She has been 100% faithful as far as I know since she has been with me though. No indications otherwise & we have a good sex life which recently has been turbocharged by this particular fantasy.
So, she has set up a Tinder profile, chatted to a few men on there, got close to arranging a coffee meet with one or two of them but was then ghosted. She also has a profile on Ashley Madison & is currently talking to a guy on there. The extra taboo of involvement with a married man turns us both on even more.
When she goes out with the girls (not as often as I’d like) she dresses in cougar mode, leather trousers & generally well presented etc. Meanwhile I’m caged up at home, horny as hell. She hardly ever has any males approaching her, she’s curvy but quite pretty, gets plenty of attention online, we think males may be intimidated by her appearance lol
Difficult to know what route to take from here really for sure.
Meet & a hotel through one of these online dating sites or attending a hotwife/cuckold night at a swingers club maybe….she has stressed that she does need to feel a connection but on the other hand is very conscious of developing deep feelings that could be problematic. Such a high wire act!
Still don’t 100% know how I will react if/when she crosses the rubicon but I’ve not experienced any real feelings of jealousy thus far & as I’ve said, I can’t blame her if I did end up regretting things because I’m the one who has planted the seed. Our communication is pretty good & whatever our feelings, we are pretty good at talking them through…
Any specific advice from this point?
We are in our early 50s so my feelings are if this is going to happen it needs to happen soon. Have been chipping away at my wife of 23 years over the last year or two, a familiar pattern has been followed, told her I found the idea of her having other lovers was a turn on & got a very doubtful response from her, thinking it is a trap for her etc, how can you think of that if you love me etc…
She was promiscuous before we met, cheated on some of her previous lovers & indeed left her husband of 8 years to be with me. She has been 100% faithful as far as I know since she has been with me though. No indications otherwise & we have a good sex life which recently has been turbocharged by this particular fantasy.
So, she has set up a Tinder profile, chatted to a few men on there, got close to arranging a coffee meet with one or two of them but was then ghosted. She also has a profile on Ashley Madison & is currently talking to a guy on there. The extra taboo of involvement with a married man turns us both on even more.
When she goes out with the girls (not as often as I’d like) she dresses in cougar mode, leather trousers & generally well presented etc. Meanwhile I’m caged up at home, horny as hell. She hardly ever has any males approaching her, she’s curvy but quite pretty, gets plenty of attention online, we think males may be intimidated by her appearance lol
Difficult to know what route to take from here really for sure.
Meet & a hotel through one of these online dating sites or attending a hotwife/cuckold night at a swingers club maybe….she has stressed that she does need to feel a connection but on the other hand is very conscious of developing deep feelings that could be problematic. Such a high wire act!
Still don’t 100% know how I will react if/when she crosses the rubicon but I’ve not experienced any real feelings of jealousy thus far & as I’ve said, I can’t blame her if I did end up regretting things because I’m the one who has planted the seed. Our communication is pretty good & whatever our feelings, we are pretty good at talking them through…
Any specific advice from this point?
