Can not get it up
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Everyone's physiology is different, as is the update of a specific medication, side-effects, and efficacy. Pretty basic...
Never thought this would happen to me but it struck at 50 - 10 years later and I’m still managing it by a combination of methods. Weirdly, I can go weeks without incident and then something will happen that breaks my concentration and as soon as I allow myself to tense up and gets stressed it’s all over. At least I recognise it’s a vicious circle, but like you I’ve no trouble getting hard but maintaining it during sex on the odd occasion it does occur. I’ve tried viagra but then realised I needed to look at the issue differently, that’s not to say it didn’t help but I didn’t want to get reliant on it. I now realise it’s actually in the mind and not the physical me even if I can’t quite go at the rate I used to 30 years ago! Some weeks my wife and I will fuck 4 times in 3 days say without the slightest hint of an issue and then others it’s better to rest my cock for 2 or 3 days to build up a nice big load for her pussy. What I’m say is there’s no fixed pattern - is that the same for you?
Believe me I wish other methods worked better, Yes all men are NOT created equal. for a while prostate massages worked well to cum, but did nothing for the wife, except my tongue. For those who lucky to take small amount of pills and get hard that's great! I Can say there are some guys on here profess they are over 70 and take no ...... at all!! and are pounding their sex mate. But for now trimix works me. But may not work for ever 🙄, I just bring it to the attention to those that have not tried it.
Had the same issue for a few months due to a combination of nerve damage (due to ruptured disc that I had treated), which also made it difficult to cum, and then anxiety about not being able to cum, which made things 10x worse. This also mostly happened after being out drinking, which is obviously a significant compounding factor but I'd never gotten "whiskey dick" when I was younger, no matter how much I drank, so it was alarming.
I did Kegel exercises to help both strengthen the muscles that allows you get and maintain an erection, as well as ejaculate (although I've always taken a long time to cum). I believe these also helped to strengthen the neurological association between my brain and this muscle. I also talked with my wife about it, which helped take a lot of the pressure off.
Not sure what did it for me, whether it was the Kegels, talking about it, just time for things to recover after surgery but I've not had a problem since. Maybe a combination of everything. I think there is almost always a psychological component because as soon as you have trouble staying hard once, at least for me, I immediately developed anxiety about it and, of course, anxiety is a total boner killer. Part of it was the worry that I was just not going to cum and my wife would be disappointed and / or get too sore to continue - once we talked and she understood it wasn't because of her, and sometimes maybe I just needed to finish myself after, she was re-assuring and it relieved a lot of the anxiety, which basically eliminated much of the problem. It's like a self-fulfilling problem.
Now I just have trouble cumming, which is annoying for me but the wife doesn't mind too much, as long as she gets good and fucked. I've been working on that by, when I masturbate, trying to see how fast I can get it done, vs. being more leisurely and stretching it out, like I used to. It's seemed to help. It was funny, I busted a load in my wife the other night in record time and she said "good boy" lol. She does like to get it inside.
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This is the biggest killer of erections once past 50 I’d guess, if you discount direct medical issues.
“anxiety about not being able to cum, which made things 10x worse”
It‘s the worse vicious circle and the I now find if my wife says something distracting during sex or is clumsy with my dick accidentally it’ll take me a moment to get back to full hardness. Usually, once I’m good to go again it’s ok but occasionally no matter what I try that anxiety in my head will not let go. Worse case we‘ll stop and after a short break resume or in the morning, which always seem best now. Sometimes I’ll just go manual with her assisting and then just before I blow I slip back in to finish - she wants her creamy deposit!
“anxiety about not being able to cum, which made things 10x worse”
It‘s the worse vicious circle and the I now find if my wife says something distracting during sex or is clumsy with my dick accidentally it’ll take me a moment to get back to full hardness. Usually, once I’m good to go again it’s ok but occasionally no matter what I try that anxiety in my head will not let go. Worse case we‘ll stop and after a short break resume or in the morning, which always seem best now. Sometimes I’ll just go manual with her assisting and then just before I blow I slip back in to finish - she wants her creamy deposit!
I ordered Mt Everest from nulmage. Are there any possible side effects?
In theory, any physician that works with a compounding pharmacy could prescribe this blend - local/retail pharmacies don't compound/blend, so your MD needs access to a compounding pharmacy.
As to insurance coverage - it depends on your plan/provider. Any plan that covers ED meds would cover this prescription. In the 'Max' formulation, the tablets run about $5/dose.
Depends on your physiology, response to the active compounds, and your overall health, particularly your circulatory system. the Max version has 20mg of tadalafil, the base version has 5mg. The 20mg dose lasts a little longer than 24-hours.
Yeah they work as long as the woman you are with will help keep it hard by showing interest ,instead of turning away or just laugh at you! ,!
I decided to give the Mt. Everest a try. I have a prescription on the way. I’ll give you an update as soon as possible!
I started using Tadalafil. After a bit of experimentation, find that I need to take it 12 hrs before. And full effect is actually after 36-48hrs! Our sex is programmed for M-F mornings for family reasons. So I take 10mg Sunday evening and 5mg additional Wed evening.
However, I also correlate my loss of firmness to my wife's prolonged dry period. She hasnt really had a good sexual affair for over a year. A few old timers who show up. But that is hardly a source of excitement for me anymore. I get aroused when its a new date and she is lookig forward to new cock.... I get aroused when she dresses slutty for a Friday night at the bar or during Summers when she wears her thong to the beach and I see all those dads and retirees turn heads
However, I also correlate my loss of firmness to my wife's prolonged dry period. She hasnt really had a good sexual affair for over a year. A few old timers who show up. But that is hardly a source of excitement for me anymore. I get aroused when its a new date and she is lookig forward to new cock.... I get aroused when she dresses slutty for a Friday night at the bar or during Summers when she wears her thong to the beach and I see all those dads and retirees turn heads
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