Yes you could say I'm pathetic. This is a word that is used on me a lot by my wife and her gfs and her lovers. And when I'm called pathetic it stirs something inside me,It gives me my identity. Some folks, who aren't in the lifestyle would view something as common as a spanking as wierd and probably say "what kind of a man would allow his wife to do this to him"? But in our mindsets it's quite acceptable. Spankings ,beltings cainings are all part of my life. When I get cained by my wife or belted by her bull,It turns all of us on. The same goes for when I'm told how pathetic and weak I am. That is like the equivalent of a caining only on my sexual self esteem or my psyche. The important thing to remember is that since I'm not a "virile man" it's impossible to fore me to engage as one. My wife saw this early on before we were married. Back then she made me realize that as a sissy I would be subjected to a lot of humiliation and she taught me that I could learn to be sexually excited by teasing and being laughed at as a sissy. Without that enlightenment I would have become a depressed suicidal casualty.She gave me a life saving gift and for this I will love her eternally.