It think it all depends on your age and your sexual maturity. I'm now happy to accept that her needs will be satisfied whether I agree to her seeing black men or not. I had to learn that the hard way. Five years ago I went crazy because I caught her in our bed one afternoon with a black guy. We'd only been married six months! She left me, of course, and when she came back five weeks later, she let it be known that I would have to accept the inevitable. If I didn't, then she would be leaving for good. I've got used to the new arrangement, and now actually enjoy hearing about and imagining her sexual experiences. And I've also discovered that it's made her a better lover. She's obviously learned a lot from her experiences. So I would recommend it to anyone unsure. It'll happen anyway, so just make the most of the situation ....