Best practices to introduce chastity

[Japantal]

I would be curious what successful best practices are there to introduce chastity play into the bedroom.

I already floated the idea to her about controlling my orgasms or managing my masturbation habits, we even saw a few cages in a sex shop years ago, but no definitive luck so far.
What I a doing right now is utter restrain from my side - I have been not came since our last PIV sex, but I am constantly edging myself to keep my libido high.

I am constantly massaging her back, her foot, or whatever I can lay my hands on. Showering her with attention, doing chores, basically being a good boy.
I tried going down on her as well but she dismissed me all three times in the last 2 days.

Looking for other ways she might get comfortable with chastity and hopefully eventually cuckolding.

 

[chastetexan]

My recommendation would be to get on whatever knockoff online retailer you prefer (amazon/dhgate/alibabe/etc) and get a good but cheap cage. Don't just put it on and surprise her with it one night, but when you both are in pillow-talk mode float the idea once again then admit that you have already bought a cage. If she's receptive to that, show her the cage and then ask if she wants you to put it on. My wife couldn't comprehend me wanting to be caged but I took it slowly and she came around to it. There are a lot of books out there but not sure my wife ever read any of them. If you watch porn or read stories together, the best ones to start with aren't ones the Female Led Relationship or femdom ones because that puts pressure on her to be the star of the show. Instead start off with unlocking videos where the wife/gf are releasing the guy and he has a huge orgasm. Go from there building up to how she can "control" you by having you focus on her, do chores or tasks for her, or stop you from constantly begging for sex because she controls your cock.

tl;dr: Do not rush it and do not just surprise her. In your brain you have been building up to this, she hasn't.

 

[vrmtr1]

Great advice!

 

[Little Boo]

My recommendation would be to get on whatever knockoff online retailer you prefer (amazon/dhgate/alibabe/etc) and get a good but cheap cage. Don't just put it on and surprise her with it one night, but when you both are in pillow-talk mode float the idea once again then admit that you have already bought a cage. If she's receptive to that, show her the cage and then ask if she wants you to put it on. My wife couldn't comprehend me wanting to be caged but I took it slowly and she came around to it. There are a lot of books out there but not sure my wife ever read any of them. If you watch porn or read stories together, the best ones to start with aren't ones the Female Led Relationship or femdom ones because that puts pressure on her to be the star of the show. Instead start off with unlocking videos where the wife/gf are releasing the guy and he has a huge orgasm. Go from there building up to how she can "control" you by having you focus on her, do chores or tasks for her, or stop you from constantly begging for sex because she controls your cock.

tl;dr: Do not rush it and do not just surprise her. In your brain you have been building up to this, she hasn't.

Agreed to this advice.
Don’t surprise, but slowly introduce the idea. Present it to her as if you belong to her only. Also, why not show her the picture and ask honestly. She's your wife and she deserves to know more about you. Simply tell her your wishes, but choose the right time to do so. The cage for me is part of my romantic love for my wife. It's like my dedication to her of being 100 faithful.

 

[chastetexan]

Agreed to this advice.
Don’t surprise, but slowly introduce the idea. Present it to her as if you belong to her only. Also, why not show her the picture and ask honestly. She's your wife and she deserves to know more about you. Simply tell her your wishes, but choose the right time to do so. The cage for me is part of my romantic love for my wife. It's like my dedication to her of being 100 faithful.

spot on.
Also, make sure it doesn't come across as an ultimatum or "I've always wanted this and my life won't be complete unless you do this". Basically its likely to be an odd request so take it slow.

 

[Little Boo]

spot on.
Also, make sure it doesn't come across as an ultimatum or "I've always wanted this and my life won't be complete unless you do this". Basically its likely to be an odd request so take it slow.

Agreed 🙂👍

 

[dccuck]

My recommendation would be to get on whatever knockoff online retailer you prefer (amazon/dhgate/alibabe/etc) and get a good but cheap cage. Don't just put it on and surprise her with it one night, but when you both are in pillow-talk mode float the idea once again then admit that you have already bought a cage. If she's receptive to that, show her the cage and then ask if she wants you to put it on. My wife couldn't comprehend me wanting to be caged but I took it slowly and she came around to it. There are a lot of books out there but not sure my wife ever read any of them. If you watch porn or read stories together, the best ones to start with aren't ones the Female Led Relationship or femdom ones because that puts pressure on her to be the star of the show. Instead start off with unlocking videos where the wife/gf are releasing the guy and he has a huge orgasm. Go from there building up to how she can "control" you by having you focus on her, do chores or tasks for her, or stop you from constantly begging for sex because she controls your cock.

tl;dr: Do not rush it and do not just surprise her. In your brain you have been building up to this, she hasn't.

Great advice, especially the part about not springing it on your wife. My husband wanted to try chastity play. He floated it to me and I wasn’t too excited by the idea. We watched videos and it all seemed weird to me, so I told him we could try but let’s shelf it for now. He heard “yes, but just figure it out.” I came home from running errands and found my man laying in bed naked with a metal cock cage on and the key at the end of a gold necklace. My girlfriend was downstairs and so he had to get dressed with the cage. Every time he sat down, I heard that cage clink on the chair and started giggling.

Long story short, we tried it. I got used to it but mostly played along for him. He lost interest after a few weeks.

 

[analystguy27]

I would be curious what successful best practices are there to introduce chastity play into the bedroom.

I already floated the idea to her about controlling my orgasms or managing my masturbation habits, we even saw a few cages in a sex shop years ago, but no definitive luck so far.
What I a doing right now is utter restrain from my side - I have been not came since our last PIV sex, but I am constantly edging myself to keep my libido high.

I am constantly massaging her back, her foot, or whatever I can lay my hands on. Showering her with attention, doing chores, basically being a good boy.
I tried going down on her as well but she dismissed me all three times in the last 2 days.

Looking for other ways she might get comfortable with chastity and hopefully eventually cuckolding.

The subject is not always understood so you need to make it a open and honest discussion.

I knew a couple who wanted to try it but the woman was not sure what it meant so her husband went down on her and ate her jut to get her to the edge and stop. Once she understood the power and pleasure dynamic, they enjoyed the chastity play.

Currently for Locktober, they have a daily ritual of the husband eating her while she edges him and uses toys and on his balls to seduction.

Any sex the wife has this month is in front of her husband and since she is bi, she has a friend who sometimes comes over to hold her husbands' balls and plays with them.

 

[owlmale]

The subject is not always understood so you need to make it a open and honest discussion.

I knew a couple who wanted to try it but the woman was not sure what it meant so her husband went down on her and ate her jut to get her to the edge and stop. Once she understood the power and pleasure dynamic, they enjoyed the chastity play.

Currently for Locktober, they have a daily ritual of the husband eating her while she edges him and uses toys and on his balls to seduction.

Any sex the wife has this month is in front of her husband and since she is bi, she has a friend who sometimes comes over to hold her husbands' balls and plays with them.

Lucky guy

 

[Jerryteroga]

I would be curious what successful best practices are there to introduce chastity play into the bedroom.

I already floated the idea to her about controlling my orgasms or managing my masturbation habits, we even saw a few cages in a sex shop years ago, but no definitive luck so far.
What I a doing right now is utter restrain from my side - I have been not came since our last PIV sex, but I am constantly edging myself to keep my libido high.

I am constantly massaging her back, her foot, or whatever I can lay my hands on. Showering her with attention, doing chores, basically being a good boy.
I tried going down on her as well but she dismissed me all three times in the last 2 days.

Looking for other ways she might get comfortable with chastity and hopefully eventually cuckolding.

Well for me it was all my wifes idea but she did enjoy making sure i could not play with myself. After i could not play with myself she soon learned that all i loved to do was play with her and please her instead.

 

[vrmtr1]

My wife just texted me the following ""I will check for cute guys while I’m out and try to tease/interact with you more with the cage"....im looking forward to going home...!!

 

[NEWBIEHotwife]

Here is a lady's opinion from someone who has gone down this path... cautiously at first but learned to love it.
Hotwifing was not my idea... my hubby brought this up and we both grew to love learning about fantasy roleplay at first through a cool book many have mentioned here. I guess you can say I really blossomed and as a fun dare I introduced chastity to my hubby. Again we relied on a book to guide us on this adventure because we found that if it is the therapist in the book suggesting we try something new and kinky, it's not like one of us is trying to convince the other into a weird situation. Anyways I bought thenbook called UNLOCKING DESIRE from Amazon and we went through it together... and followed the challenges suggested in the book which took any weirdness out of it.
Like someone mentioned here, we bought a nice metal cage from Amazon and had fun learning how to put it on and how long his lock up times would be.
My hubby goes obiently into his cage now and I'm loving the extra attention I'm receiving not ony in bed but around the house.
Ladies, if you're out and you see a husband opening the car door for his wife, you can bet that man is caged and ironically a happy dude.
Let me know ifnyou have any questions on our journey into hotwifing roleplay and getting my hubby into chastity.

 

[vrmtr1]

My wife put me in the cage today!! 2025..I hope will be an eventful year!!

 

[vrmtr1]

My wife put me in the cage today!! 2025..I hope will be an eventful year!!

She just came by , grabbed my cock to be assured the cage is on!! she's playing along!!