Best practices to introduce chastity

[Japantal]

I would be curious what successful best practices are there to introduce chastity play into the bedroom.

I already floated the idea to her about controlling my orgasms or managing my masturbation habits, we even saw a few cages in a sex shop years ago, but no definitive luck so far.
What I a doing right now is utter restrain from my side - I have been not came since our last PIV sex, but I am constantly edging myself to keep my libido high.

I am constantly massaging her back, her foot, or whatever I can lay my hands on. Showering her with attention, doing chores, basically being a good boy.
I tried going down on her as well but she dismissed me all three times in the last 2 days.

Looking for other ways she might get comfortable with chastity and hopefully eventually cuckolding.

 

[chastetexan]

My recommendation would be to get on whatever knockoff online retailer you prefer (amazon/dhgate/alibabe/etc) and get a good but cheap cage. Don't just put it on and surprise her with it one night, but when you both are in pillow-talk mode float the idea once again then admit that you have already bought a cage. If she's receptive to that, show her the cage and then ask if she wants you to put it on. My wife couldn't comprehend me wanting to be caged but I took it slowly and she came around to it. There are a lot of books out there but not sure my wife ever read any of them. If you watch porn or read stories together, the best ones to start with aren't ones the Female Led Relationship or femdom ones because that puts pressure on her to be the star of the show. Instead start off with unlocking videos where the wife/gf are releasing the guy and he has a huge orgasm. Go from there building up to how she can "control" you by having you focus on her, do chores or tasks for her, or stop you from constantly begging for sex because she controls your cock.

tl;dr: Do not rush it and do not just surprise her. In your brain you have been building up to this, she hasn't.

 

[vrmtr1]

Great advice!

 

[Little Boo]

My recommendation would be to get on whatever knockoff online retailer you prefer (amazon/dhgate/alibabe/etc) and get a good but cheap cage. Don't just put it on and surprise her with it one night, but when you both are in pillow-talk mode float the idea once again then admit that you have already bought a cage. If she's receptive to that, show her the cage and then ask if she wants you to put it on. My wife couldn't comprehend me wanting to be caged but I took it slowly and she came around to it. There are a lot of books out there but not sure my wife ever read any of them. If you watch porn or read stories together, the best ones to start with aren't ones the Female Led Relationship or femdom ones because that puts pressure on her to be the star of the show. Instead start off with unlocking videos where the wife/gf are releasing the guy and he has a huge orgasm. Go from there building up to how she can "control" you by having you focus on her, do chores or tasks for her, or stop you from constantly begging for sex because she controls your cock.

tl;dr: Do not rush it and do not just surprise her. In your brain you have been building up to this, she hasn't.

Agreed to this advice.
Don’t surprise, but slowly introduce the idea. Present it to her as if you belong to her only. Also, why not show her the picture and ask honestly. She's your wife and she deserves to know more about you. Simply tell her your wishes, but choose the right time to do so. The cage for me is part of my romantic love for my wife. It's like my dedication to her of being 100 faithful.

 

[chastetexan]

Agreed to this advice.
Don’t surprise, but slowly introduce the idea. Present it to her as if you belong to her only. Also, why not show her the picture and ask honestly. She's your wife and she deserves to know more about you. Simply tell her your wishes, but choose the right time to do so. The cage for me is part of my romantic love for my wife. It's like my dedication to her of being 100 faithful.

spot on.
Also, make sure it doesn't come across as an ultimatum or "I've always wanted this and my life won't be complete unless you do this". Basically its likely to be an odd request so take it slow.

 

[Little Boo]

spot on.
Also, make sure it doesn't come across as an ultimatum or "I've always wanted this and my life won't be complete unless you do this". Basically its likely to be an odd request so take it slow.

Agreed 🙂👍