Going off aboves response it really does depend the on type of guy fits for you. Some women feel more comfortable knowing a trusted guy they know while others want discrete strangers to fit the need. For we tried going to a swingers club and a bar looking for a guy but she was too uncomfortable with a pickup like that. What worked for us is a local swingers group and a SPAM. She would chat online then eventually moved it to kik type chats. When she was ready to meet she at least felt like she knew something about them. Everyone is different decide which way is best and go from there but realize as you go down that direction it doesn’t always work out the way you wish so don’t be afraid to try another way.