For me it started as a kid. I remember seeing a porn my father was watching in the living room. I was supposed to be asleep but wasn't. It was a lady cheating on her partner getting railed over a dresser by her lover. I was attracted by that. Moving forward, my first spouse was unfaithful over and over during almost a decade long marriage. Why I stayed, children, however, it came to a point where I couldn't any longer. During that, the only way I could find out what she had done along the way was tell her it was a turn on if she told me. Which at that time, it wasn't, that was my "ploy" to get the truth. However, after years of doing it that way over and over, it did become a turn on. My wires got crossed. I mixed pleasure with shame, humiliation, jealousy, incompetence, etc. to the point that I have to have that now in order to cum. During around the 2nd year of my new marriage, during a game we played called "Q&A" was when the ice was broke on this topic. The game is simple, each take a turn to ask ANYTHING you want and the other has to be 100% honest no matter what the consequence. I learned a LOT of things I didn't know about the lady I had been married to for two years already and she did about me as well. I also learned a lot about what was a willing situation and what was a hard pass. It worked very well for us to do this. We still do it just for fun sometimes. When we first started doing it was when I worked a job that I was gone for months and we played it via text message. It got so hot with some of the answers, yes, I had to jerk off from being that turned on. 15 years later, children are all adults now, nobody home. We started venturing out and exploring. She had one person offer, I told her to accept and she did. So far, it's been 3 times now. We banged for 3 weeks, sometimes 7 hours a day because of how hot it was to us to have done that. I listen to recordings or I have been there in person to listen. Haven't done the progress to watching but that is what we wanted right from the get go. Bull wasn't comfortable with that yet. Hopefully soon. I'm not a cuckold, but I like cuckold things. It's a little complicated for me to explain. I enjoy things from her but I am not submissive what so ever to another male. I'm brand new to the lifestyle so I have no clue where that fits in or what it's even called.