Flirting them gently, talk to them with respect and telling them the truth that I like them and want to meet them better... So talking and of course listening and respect them is the "key"... Not phrases like "I like you and I want to fuck you"... This is not working for sure... And of course you must count the husbands too... They are not stupid or idiots...they are couples who enjoy a different way of sex life... This is my way and how I do it work for me and them...