Anyone start out with voyerism/exhibitionism?

hi i am married and i am bi my husband is not we meet others into exhibitionism same room sex toys and yes it started with one night early when we were married had sex with a guy watching us on beach it really excited me and wanted to add it to our fun and its safe i like watch men jerk off and my husband likes watching me with other women i can be very kinky with that and my husband joins in a times if its ok with them or he watches
 

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My story exactly right here. The need for an emotional connection is why my wife won't allow herself to be shared.
As the other man in a number of relationships, I agree. I’m very pro marriage and often see myself as “the missing piece”.
I fill a void. There is a bond, affection, between me and her, me and him, even a degree of love, but not “in love”.
My intent , even by using her as my personal fuck toy, is to strengthen the marriage.
I know, sounds weird, huh
 
Voyeurism and exhibition / exhibitionism played a formative role in our early marriage - but I can’t say it was a direct contributor in the sense of the original post.

KK was always an attention-getter, attention-seeker, and exhibitionist. One evening, trigged by a story on the local news, the topic of visiting an adult bookstore / arcade came up. She begged me to take her…

Over several visits, we exposed her, got her groped, bought several porn tapes, a couple of dildos/vibrators, and a bunch of sex magazines. In the moment, she stopped short of actually having sex with any of the men, other than touching and being touched.

What I didn’t know is that she was going solo, during the day, and some evenings - without me - sucking and fucking… she kept doing it until she got caught in a vice raid, then sucked and fucked her way out of it… she was 21 going on 22 at the time… a fucking goddess who could get men to turn themselves inside out to have sex with her.
 
Besides the ABS visits, KK was up to another thing with two guys we knew from college - we also bought pot from them at that time. Unknown to me, when I was traveling, or at work, KK and these two guys would smoke out and drink on days when she was doing the deal with them. One time, she was short (spent all the money on new shoes), she let them watch her masturbate, while they stroked, as a place-holder for the money...

That became a ritual, in return for which KK got a discount... it also deteriorated into her fucking and sucking them. I didn't find out until decades later.
 
So after lots and lots of talking I think my wife and I are going to a swingers club to just watch or be watched. Anyone else start this way? Where did it eventually lead?

My wife is very vanilla and I am more kinky. We both are unsure about actually sharing her (even if she fully and truly wants to) and thought this would be a safe way to experience the "lifestyle." However, she doesnt like being the center of attention so has some reservations. My wife also needs (and is also made uncomfortable by this) an emotional connection with the person she is having sex with. Though she has also said she can have just sex for the sake of just having sex. I want her to act like a slut but I respect her for not actually being a slut. I would have never married her if she was. When I fantasize about her having sex with someone I get turned on but then also think that my wife is special to me, the ...... of my kids, and do I really want someone I dont really know fucking her. Maybe if it was a friend or someone we knew it would be better but on the otherhand it would be weird too.

This is really confusing. Any insight?
I think a studly friend would make the best lover for any couple eXploring this eXciting Taboo, she would let go all her yearning pent up desires. Imho
 
This is what I am attempting. I have begun touching and feeling her up in the garage with the door open. Pulling her shirt up and letting her big titties bust out in full display of the neighbors. She is usually too overcome to care
Oh fuck that's awesome that you're able to do that and then she's too overcome to care about it I'm sure you're doing that with a major hard on.
 
It's slow progress here but we are getting closer and closer. She's shy so definitely no exhibition but there are signs of it.

She dressing more sexy and quiet often in tops that clearly show her nipple's. She allowed me to post bikini and dressed photos online and loves the feedback. Her goto fantasy and porn is nude beach bukkake. So yeah small signs of exhibition.