Steve, Bernard was right on the money about how Alicia wants you to be involved, she wants you to direct her and tell her what to do. This is the submissive who inside of her.
Perhaps you start with some challenges that you give her. Go to a bar, or a night club and give her the challenge of meeting or getting picked up by a stranger. Maybe the challenge is just to talk and flirt, maybe it’s to dance suggestively with him/them, or make out in a booth or at the table, or at his car in the parking lot, maybe it’s a blowjob in the back of his car or a fuck in the back seat. You saw how easy it would be for her to get the attention of men in a bar. Maybe you drive a distance from your house for the day and go to a seedier bar with her dressed kind of slutty and tell her she has to give someone a blowjob, and then fuck someone else before she can leave.
Tell her to wear shorter/tighter skirts, no bra, no panties, higher heels, even to go to the grocery store or mall.
You said she has bigger tits so tell her show them off more. Maybe a loose fitting top and bending over, or a nip slip.
Have her go to a gay/lesbian bar and tell her to get picked up by a lipstick lesbian, or a butch and have sex with them. Tell her she has to eat their pussy to orgasm.
See Bernard has Alicia pegged. If you tell her to do these things you are giving her permission to do them, you are ok with her slutty hotwife self, she will not have to worry about how you perceive her because you are telling her to do these things, so you must be ok with the.
Remeber you ultimately gave her the ok to be with Mark and Raj. You encouraged her to keep going back to Raj and then have him in the pool house.
Check in with Bernard if you aren’t sure what to tell her to do or who to do. I’m sure he has plenty of ideas.
Ask him where the sex clubs are in the San Fran area and take her. Give her things she must accomplish while there. Who does she fuck, how many, what types of sex.
she will blossom if you take control, of her hotwife behavior.