I think it's just a personal choice. My wife tried to keep the age difference to about 20 years. Then she started communicating with her current, who is almost 30 years younger. She has been seeing him for about 3 months and has no regrets, lol
I'm 56. I was with a 21 yr old in June. I was on a San Antonio overnight in June (I'm an airline pilot). Me and my first officer ran into these two young girls at a bar on the Riverwalk. We started talking with them and finally got a table for the 4 of us.
The two girls were hot, young nursing students from New York on a short summer break. They were best friends and it was their first trip together "of age." One was from Ecuador, one was from Brazil. I figured they were into my handsome, much younger first officer.
As we sat at the table, I showed them a pic on my phone. One of the girls asked me to send her the pic. I did, which gave her my number.
As the four of us talked, and did tequila shots, she discreetly started texting me in a suggestive way. I grinned at her across the table. I texted her I was 56. She replied "I have daddy issues." I told her I was game, but I understood if she changed her mind.
I gave her every opportunity to change her mind, but she didn't. She ended up in my room that night. Needless to say, I devoured that hot, petite, young girl.
What a gift!!!!! Not only that, but the next morning, she told me to text her if I ended up in New York for the night. I did, and I have seen her twice since San Antonio.
I was expecting the "sugar daddy" request from her. But she hasn't asked for that, at all.
I'm more than old enough to be her dad. Should I be ashamed?