A 1000 miles journey starts with the first step.

[Locked]

Hello everyone,

First I want to share how much I appreciate this forum. Had the cuckold fantasy for years and never felt like it's a good fantasy, always felt like what I want is somehow wrong. With so many cuckolds here I realised this is quite normal. And because of that I am planning to share my cuckold fantasy with my wife today.

In few hours we are going out to a restaurant and then a bar. Feels like a good moment when alcohol is involved.
Honestly, I do not expect very positive reaction. I just hope the conversation will be a food for thoughts. I hope with the time she will see I am serious about it and may proceed with cucking me.
A 1000 miles journey starts with the first step.

A little about us:
We are in our early 40's. We are both fit, she is more fit than me (I have to admit) as she is hitting the gym 4 times a week.
Also I am locked in chastity for the last 2 years, which she loves. Rarely (once per 2 months) I am out of the cage and can have sex, but it's not the greatest sex as you can imagine after erections being suppressed for 2 months. So, not the greatest erection and definitely not the greatest stamina. I go down on her almost daily, which I always loved to do and got pretty good at it.

Anyway, will keep you posted until it happens or until I give up (whatever comes first).

Cheers.

 

[vrmtr1]

I wish you luck! you are in a cage, so she does have a kinkier side to her already..maybe she will see the value in cucking you...maybe she is already excited and needs the release. How did you get her to cage you? Who brought that idea up?

 

[Locked]

I wish you luck! you are in a cage, so she does have a kinkier side to her already..maybe she will see the value in cucking you...maybe she is already excited and needs the release. How did you get her to cage you? Who brought that idea up?

I brought the idea of the cage, she didn't love it or hate it in the beginning, it was more like "it's your penis, if you want to lock it - lock it". But when she started experiencing the benefits - she got really serious with protecting the keys from me.
She has a kinky side. We had OF account some years ago, which somehow helped me with my cuckold desires, it wasn't a real cuckold experience, but it was nice to see other men wanting her or wanking on our videos. We closed the account, because at some point it felt like all the sex we have is just for the camera and also we started introducing the cage, i.e. no more normal sex.

 

[vrmtr1]

I know of some, but specifically what were the benefits your wife saw with caging? I'm trying to introduce it to my wife and hope she too withh embrace it to some level. We can take this conversation to messaging if you'd like

 

[Locked]

I know of some, but specifically what were the benefits your wife saw with caging? I'm trying to introduce it to my wife and hope she too withh embrace it to some level. We can take this conversation to messaging if you'd like

Sure, feel free to DM.
Just a short list of the benefits for both of us:
- I am much more focused on her pleasure
- I started to experience sexual pleasure by providing sexual pleasure
- started to do a lot more chores in home, somehow just want to do them and help her
- she doesn't feel pressured for sex which relaxed her and made her want sex more (just oral in our case)
- I am relaxed, feel more mental clarity and focus, which also means we do not fight about stupid things
- I don't watch porn anymore, it doesn't do anything anymore
- when I finally have orgasm, I enjoy it a lot more and feel grateful she allowed it
- overall I have more energy
- she feels pampered, because I started to ask her often what can I do for her, bring her something or whatever

Hope it is not against the rules to share a link. You may want to check this [website]. I sent it to my wife and there was a definite change in her after she read it. We even did the 90 days initial lock-up period, which turned into 150 days.

 

[Locked]

We had the conversation and it went very much as expected.
I started with the fact that since I am locked in cage our sex is quite bad, I can not perform the way I did in the beginning of our relationship (we had great sex back then). Now, even if I manage to have some sort of acceptable erection, my lack of stamina does not allow me to go over 2 minutes - expected when I do not experience any stimulation on the penis for months.
She agreed our sex is bad and then I asked how she feels about having good sex with someone.
She quickly answered she can never do this.
Then I told her I want her to know:
- I am not trying to use this to get rid of her, I love her and I want to spend my life with her
- I am not trying to have the same option for me, I expect to stay locked
- I will not use this against her in any way, it's my idea
She said she already knows all of this. If I had asked her in the beginning of our relationship she would be offended and would think I don't love her. But now she knows me very well, knows how much kinky I am and understands it's just about the sex. Still for her feels like she would be cheating and she can not do this to me. And us being good together is more important for her than any kind of sex.
I pointed out cheating requires some sort of deception and it can not be cheating if I am there or, at least, I want it to happen. And us being good together and good sex for her are not mutually exclusive, she can have both.
She agreed, but still doesn't change how she feels about it. She still sees it as cheating and can not do this to me. Also she pointed out sex is not important for her.
I felt like this is enough for now and to close the topic I just said I want her to know if she likes someone or finds someone suitable - she just have to tell me and we will see how we will proceed, but for sure would be slowly, maybe will start with flirting first.
She said ok, but I should not have hopes, because she doesn't think this is going to happen ever and hopes I am ok with that.
I said I am ok if that's how she feels, obviously not going to pressure her into something she doesn't want to do.
Then we both thanked each other for the open conversation and being so honest about this.

So, from my point of view, this is not happening in the near future. But, as I mentioned in the first post, I hope it will be food for thoughts. I can't stop hoping, but I am not planning on bringing again this topic any time soon (not in the next month anyway). I do not give up yet, but it feels like I should back down for awhile.