Although we have only experimented with certain aspects of a cuckold lifestyle much of what you say resonates with me as the husband who's wife plays. I relate to your thought that by me enjoying "sloppy seconds" in a way defines my role in a MFM scenario. I do get pleasure know that I will get to experience my wives body only after her lover has. Even though I am not treated as a sub in the role I do enjoy prolonging my sexual gratification with my wife only after another man has. There has been several occasions where the wife has been with her boyfriends and afterwards I had no release which in this case has provided a separate thrill to me all on its own.
Although we were not young when we began this lifestyle (32 me/34 her). I agree that at least for us, being both emotionally and physically stable in our relationship allowed us to have the maturity to pursue our sexual desires. I would had that having a rock solid marriage built on openness as well as a high level of trust has been big factors in the enjoyment we have gotten from our lifestyle. We have had an open marriage for over 20 years and even now at 56 and 59 adventures continue to enhance our bond with each other I have always been curious what the other guy is thinking regarding me. My hope has always been as you stated, that they were getting some satisfaction knowing that the pleasure they got having sex with my wife as well as the pleasure she got excited me. For me, smelling them on her both their scent and the smell of their cum is a turn on. Also seeing her swollen, red, cum filled pussy along with entering her feeling the mix of hers and his cum was extremely simulating and I cum very quickly.
