Yes, definetly her reponse is different if we talk about during the day vs when we are in bed. However, lately she has shared that my interest in seeing her shared makes her feel like she isnt good enough for me to be happy just having sex with her. We've been married 10yrs, together 14yrs, and while the sex is very enjoyable it is just vanilla. My wife can be very prim and proper though is open minded. We've tried toys, dirty talk, watching porn, role playing but she always comes back to feeling upset that she cant be enough for me without all those things. Ive always desired novelty in my life - work, hobbies, food - including sex. Its like having ice cream with hot fudge and whipped cream. I still love ice cream, its just better with toppings.
I just get bored with vanilla sex after a while. It gets to a point where I lose interest and would just not have sex. My wife thinks that I dont love her or find her attractive. Talking about the hotwife lifestyle is realy exciting and spiced things up for us. I think my wife would be fine just going back to vanilla all the time. In fact she has said that she only entertains those fantasies just for me, she doesnt need/want that. Its really frustrating because I feel we are going to wind up with a sexless marriage or one of us is going to turn elsewhere to find what we want.
With a hotwife lifestyle, she gets vanilla sex with me plus more sex with others (that she says she doesnt need or want) and becomes more sexy to me and then we get even hotter more intimate sex. This has nothing to do with attractiveness, its just the vanilla sex is so vanilla.
Hoping some of you are able to chime in
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