What should I do? (Husband caught masturbating to porn)

[jess8eris5]

Hi there!

Some of you may be surprised at the title.
Briefly what it's about: Unfortunately, my husband now comes too early and no longer satisfies me. That's why I'm looking for ways to help him. He still doesn't want to go to the doctor. I've had lots of interesting and helpful conversations here. As a result, I've now reached the point where a third person is the best way to satisfy me. I had already spoken to him about my wish. But he didn't agree. Cheating is no option for me. I still want my husband to agree to this.

I usually go to bed before him. He then watches some TV. Last night I woke up and had to go to the toilet. When I went out of the bedroom I heard noises that didn't match the TV. I walked towards the living room and saw that my husband was watching porn on the tablet and jerking off. I don't know what exactly he was watching. He didn't notice me and I quietly walked back towards the bathroom.
I haven't spoken to him yet. I wanted to know your opinion first. I know he masturbates. But catching him doing it was a surprise.
Can I somehow use this as an opportunity to persuade him or am I reading too much into it?

Thanks for any advices!

 

[Wannabecuck895]

Hi there!

Some of you may be surprised at the title.
Briefly what it's about: Unfortunately, my husband now comes too early and no longer satisfies me. That's why I'm looking for ways to help him. He still doesn't want to go to the doctor. I've had lots of interesting and helpful conversations here. As a result, I've now reached the point where a third person is the best way to satisfy me. I had already spoken to him about my wish. But he didn't agree. Cheating is no option for me. I still want my husband to agree to this.

I usually go to bed before him. He then watches some TV. Last night I woke up and had to go to the toilet. When I went out of the bedroom I heard noises that didn't match the TV. I walked towards the living room and saw that my husband was watching porn on the tablet and jerking off. I don't know what exactly he was watching. He didn't notice me and I quietly walked back towards the bathroom.
I haven't spoken to him yet. I wanted to know your opinion first. I know he masturbates. But catching him doing it was a surprise.
Can I somehow use this as an opportunity to persuade him or am I reading too much into it?

Thanks for any advices!

Tell him you saw him masturbating and you do not mind that he does. Say you want to satisfy him also and want to know more about what excites him and that you would like to be involved in any way you can.

 

[majorem]

Can I somehow use this as an opportunity to persuade him or am I reading too much into it?

I think without knowing what he's watching, you're reading into it too much - its pretty normal for men to masturbate to porn and, by itself, doesn't really mean anything.

If you have access to the tablet, you could try looking into the browser history to see what porn he viewed and if any of it is threesome or cuckold related. Of course, its possible he cleared the history but might be worth checking.

If you want to coax him in the direction you want, you could mention that you saw him masturbating to porn and could say you want to watch porn with him sometime and maybe masturbate together. Then you could steer the video selections in the direction you like.

I think whether you're a woman trying to convince her husband or a husband trying to convince a wife, one element of it that is the same, is that you need to introduce the fantasy to your partner gradually, in a way that gets them sexually interested and thinking about it on their own, first as a fantasy, so that it can become a shared fantasy before you try moving to reality.

If you just get him watching the right porn, make suggestive comments, maybe go for a girls night out and jokingly tease him about what you might be up to, it will all help plant the idea in his head and he will naturally think about it and nature will take its course. If you do it right, he will become increasingly turned on by the idea - the danger though, is if your husband is insecure, he may just get jealous and paranoid. You will have to feel this out as you go and course-correct if necessary.