We've been stuck on the doorstep...

[Deezire]

We have been stuck on the doorstep for about four years. I married up for sure to a gorgeous woman who literally dated a different guy every week all thru college. At the time she was strict religious no sex before marriage girl. Fast forward 20 years, sexual liberation and couples work with sex positive therapist and my wife finally brought it up. The regret she has about not fucking all those guys she dated🤣. I always knew she felt this way deep inside and it wasn't a surprise. Hell, she walks in a restaurant or business mweting or the grocery store ans she turns heads. She just has this strong, attracrive sexual energy. So we went to Desire RM ans both time she just couldn't oull the trigger. She knows she has my full and complete support. We still see the therapist and revisit this topic and I reminder thatbit is still fully on the table.

It's wwird being in this limbo. Part of her wants it. And I want it for her! But it has to be on her achedule. She doesn't want to go back to Desire. But she is open to checking out the Collette we have near us and seeing how that goes.

I am full on ready to help find and set up dates for her. We just gorta break the ice somehow!

 

[YourNewBull]

Maybe the problem is going to an official venue is too tawdry and too much pressure for her. Perhaps she feels cheap. I suggest casually meeting someone IRL. No pressure then just mentioning to her that perhaps this guy is a good candidate.
Make sure he ticks all the right boxes first. Whatever they are. She doesn't need to know it's arranged. There are no expectations. If they click great. If not, you can try again. Not at a bar but perhaps a movie theater, a grocery store. Leave the pressure out of it and let nature take it's course

 

[swingforitall32]

We have been stuck on the doorstep for about four years. I married up for sure to a gorgeous woman who literally dated a different guy every week all thru college. At the time she was strict religious no sex before marriage girl. Fast forward 20 years, sexual liberation and couples work with sex positive therapist and my wife finally brought it up. The regret she has about not fucking all those guys she dated🤣. I always knew she felt this way deep inside and it wasn't a surprise. Hell, she walks in a restaurant or business mweting or the grocery store ans she turns heads. She just has this strong, attracrive sexual energy. So we went to Desire RM ans both time she just couldn't oull the trigger. She knows she has my full and complete support. We still see the therapist and revisit this topic and I reminder thatbit is still fully on the table.

It's wwird being in this limbo. Part of her wants it. And I want it for her! But it has to be on her achedule. She doesn't want to go back to Desire. But she is open to checking out the Collette we have near us and seeing how that goes.

I am full on ready to help find and set up dates for her. We just gorta break the ice somehow!

Dm me I’ll help you with this bull here

 

[erinisacockwhor]

It’s a nice nightmare all this. Get messed up and get u friends it’s easier. Although they get less attractive or bad trade. Trades always work for me and hard for her. I have no idea and impressed everyone not getting fucked up its way better and everyone lets go and goes wild.

 

[erinisacockwhor]

But it’s hard we dirtbags not the lifestyle.

Ten lifestyle? Of wanting to fuck ppl and liking that u loose control and let peope
Live that care about. But that GF separated both. Was struggle w wife after married facts are wait for it. Not every single
Woman is hotdog so don’t don’t forse it. But keep pushing on.

 

[Deezire]

I suggest casually meeting someone IRL.

She doesn't need to know it's arranged.

Thanks for this helpful advice. She travels alot for work and usually eats at the hotel restaurant bar. You may be on to something...

 

[Iahotwifeshusband]

I agree with the advice to casually meet someone. Going to a club where everyone is looking for sex is very intimidating and advanced. I expect your wife needs at least some connection in order to fuck someone. If you give her a little freedom to essentially have a date with someone and get to know them, she may be more comfortable taking the leap. Keep in mind, when I say “dating”, I don’t mean long term. Instead, it would be more like 1-2 dates to get to know someone before ...... with them.

The other concern she may have is if she does this and it doesn’t go well, it isn’t something you can undo. When my wife first started, I told her that we should try it once and see how we both like it. We know it is a risk, but we both need to agree to try it once, then sit down and talk about how we both feel. If we both had fun, we continue. If either of us didn’t enjoy it, then we stop and it is held over anyone’s head. That was a key in her taking the leap. (Plus finding a gentlemen that turned her on enough to take the chance)

Best of luck!

 

[Hwcouple702]

You're seeing a sex therapist in order to convince your wife to do this? If she's willing to do that then she should
have no problem actually going thru with it. The problem comes if those first experiences are not pleasant or even
worse, unpleasant and awful.

Indeed, as much as sex with other men is "irreversible", so is not having sex with other men. Certainly problems can arise from this
lifestyle but when it works out well it's fantastic. Wasted time will be the biggest regret "Why didn't I start this earlier?" In other cases, when it doesn't work out, then things just go back to normal. It would take an odd individual to carry a lifetime of regret over such a simple and natural
thing as sex. The only reason to carry any sort of guilt about such a thing is external expectations. The pressure of society and it's artificial
discouragement of sexual freedom. In fact, with every sort of bizarre sexual activity now seemingly celebrated, why put yourself thru
the angst of concern with external mores? You get one chance to be a "faithful" spouse and only one chance to be an "unfaithful" spouse and it's one or the other. Consensual non-monogamy is far preferable to the societal norm of non-consensual sex outside of the marriage.

Rambling thoughts, but maybe some food for thought...

Mr

 

[Deezire]

You're seeing a sex therapist in order to convince your wife to do this? If she's willing to do that then she should
have no problem actually going thru with it.

Seeing the sex therapist was HER idea and ask. She came to me. And I spent considerable time (year and half) listening, learning, understanding and warming to the idea. Understanding why she desires this. Understanding her needs.

And I totally get it now. I have told her this in private and with the therapist present validating. I have shown her I want this for her with role playing and fantasy with toys (which very clearly) turns her on.
I booked the trips to Desire RM for her - which she was is super excited about.

I want this FOR her.

 

[Hwcouple702]

Seeing the sex therapist was HER idea and ask. She came to me. And I spent considerable time (year and half) listening, learning, understanding and warming to the idea. Understanding why she desires this. Understanding her needs.

And I totally get it now. I have told her this in private and with the therapist present validating. I have shown her I want this for her with role playing and fantasy with toys (which very clearly) turns her on.
I booked the trips to Desire RM for her - which she was is super excited about.

I want this FOR her.

Great! Desire should be fun as long as she can shed her inhibitions and get comfortable being naked if possible...

 

[WNY3somecple]

Thanks for this helpful advice. She travels alot for work and usually eats at the hotel restaurant bar. You may be on to something...

Deception/lies are never, ever a good idea in trying to enter a non monogamous lifestyle.

 

[robbiewillsucku]

2025, Hello wantabe cuckold(s). I am Robbie in Norman, Oklahoma, a bimale with a nice c*ck and nice tits.

If you want her to fuck other cocks then after you fuck her - start licking her pussy clean - do this every time you fuck her then after the 10th time - while you are licking her pussy - I am fantasizing that you fucked a cock earlier in the day and I am licking his cum from your pussy. It is all about pleasing you not my cock. I am OK being a sissy cuckold.

I want you to try this on your wife or GF - do this every time when you suck her tit. Suck her tit like a cock. Bounce or bobb your head on her tit just like you would if you were sucking a cock. Do this at least once a week. Third week, start sucking her tit then tell her that you are fantasizing. Hoping she says what are you fantasizing about. If not, suck her tit like a cock then just say -- I am fantasizing that I am sucking your tit like a cock. Don't wait - you say - tell me to suck your tit like a cock. When she tells you to suck her tit like a cock -- sucked harder and deeper.

Three more weeks -- start sucking her tit then you say - tell me to ask --- May I please suck your tit like a cock cause I am a sub sissy faggot cocksucker. Repeat it often to yourself and to her while you are sucking her tit. Yes I am a sub sissy faggot cocksucker - yes I am sucking your tit like a cock. Dry hump her while you are sucking her tit like a cock and you might just cum on her leg or in your panties.

Email me back (robbiewillsucku at gm ail) and tell me how she responded and what you are doing now to please her.

 

[Iahotwifeshusband]

2025, Hello wantabe cuckold(s). I am Robbie in Norman, Oklahoma, a bimale with a nice c*ck and nice tits.

If you want her to fuck other cocks then after you fuck her - start licking her pussy clean - do this every time you fuck her then after the 10th time - while you are licking her pussy - I am fantasizing that you fucked a cock earlier in the day and I am licking his cum from your pussy. It is all about pleasing you not my cock. I am OK being a sissy cuckold.

I want you to try this on your wife or GF - do this every time when you suck her tit. Suck her tit like a cock. Bounce or bobb your head on her tit just like you would if you were sucking a cock. Do this at least once a week. Third week, start sucking her tit then tell her that you are fantasizing. Hoping she says what are you fantasizing about. If not, suck her tit like a cock then just say -- I am fantasizing that I am sucking your tit like a cock. Don't wait - you say - tell me to suck your tit like a cock. When she tells you to suck her tit like a cock -- sucked harder and deeper.

Three more weeks -- start sucking her tit then you say - tell me to ask --- May I please suck your tit like a cock cause I am a sub sissy faggot cocksucker. Repeat it often to yourself and to her while you are sucking her tit. Yes I am a sub sissy faggot cocksucker - yes I am sucking your tit like a cock. Dry hump her while you are sucking her tit like a cock and you might just cum on her leg or in your panties.

Email me back (robbiewillsucku at gm ail) and tell me how she responded and what you are doing now to please her.

This may work for some, but may not for all. My wife loves the variety of fucking different men, but does not want me to be a submissive cuck. It is also possible to be a type A male who enjoys sharing their wife.

 

[CuckmeCleveland]

Thanks for this helpful advice. She travels alot for work and usually eats at the hotel restaurant bar. You may be on to something...

YNB has put this together, Deezire.

Begin by going to school on your wife. Her preferred novels, TV shows, etc. Do any themes or situations in drama seem to fascinate her? Do any scenarios hold her interest well — as use of blindfolds?

Men shouldn’t expect their wives to share their fantasies, but that doesn’t mean you can’t learn about them. How well can you map her erotic response? Until you can do this, you’re not ready.

AFTER you have done all the vetting, found the guy with her preferred traits [ex: tall, few grey hairs, mischievous sense of humor — whatever it is], you give him all that information.

You also discuss your wife’s erogenous zones — nape of her neck, ears or lobes, inside her wrists, toes, soles of her feet, ankles, calves, behind her knees, lower back, inner thighs — tell him everything.

You should be in ongoing dialogue with this guy weeks if not months in advance. Everything needs lengthy discussion. He should know your wife’s behavioral and sexual patterns as well as you do. Ask all the questions and give as many answers as are needed for this to happen.

As she is on her way to him, contact him again to bring him up to speed on her day, where her head is and feelings are.

When they meet, you want EVERYTHING:

• Completely UNpressured
• Completely relaxed
• Completely comfortable
• Completely pleasurable
• Completely uninterrupted
• Completely spontaneous

NOTHING should seem planned, which is why everything MUST be planned.

All these things together give him a huge advantage. He can be confident, relaxed and lead her seamlessly into extremely pleasant experiences.

Husbands are always asking if she is ‘ready.’ Not the approach you want. Do not go for ‘agreement on principle.’

She is ready when she is a pushover.

This is seduction. You want her in a situation with a man that you vetted and coached. You are friends and allies.

Until it faces excruciatingly exquisite testing, your wife’s virtue is meaningless.

Your wife’s untested virtue is worthless.

 

[TallBWCArizona]

We have been stuck on the doorstep for about four years. I married up for sure to a gorgeous woman who literally dated a different guy every week all thru college. At the time she was strict religious no sex before marriage girl. Fast forward 20 years, sexual liberation and couples work with sex positive therapist and my wife finally brought it up. The regret she has about not fucking all those guys she dated🤣. I always knew she felt this way deep inside and it wasn't a surprise. Hell, she walks in a restaurant or business mweting or the grocery store ans she turns heads. She just has this strong, attracrive sexual energy. So we went to Desire RM ans both time she just couldn't oull the trigger. She knows she has my full and complete support. We still see the therapist and revisit this topic and I reminder thatbit is still fully on the table.

It's wwird being in this limbo. Part of her wants it. And I want it for her! But it has to be on her achedule. She doesn't want to go back to Desire. But she is open to checking out the Collette we have near us and seeing how that goes.

I am full on ready to help find and set up dates for her. We just gorta break the ice somehow!

I have helped a number of couples have a much better marriage and increase their intimacy. I have an idea for you. It's nothing hard that you get stressed out about. Send me a private message.