I am not sure this is the right place to make this post but as a devoted husband I feel I got to at least try.
After 10 years of marriage the last few month I have begun to see an amazing change. Due to her active lifestyle my wife is beginning to feel sexy again. She has always been sexy but there is something special when a women begins to see it again though her own eyes. I don't want to get in great detail on here but will give the short answer.
I am looking for a mentor to help me on this journey of opening up her eyes to this type of lifestyle. I am not really into guides or step by step manuals. I want someone I can chat to during this process I am aware it won't be a speedy process but it will be worth the time. I am also aware there is consultant services that gear towards this. Sorry that's not my style I want something more personal and services aren't personal.
I am fine with any men that are married to hotwife a and wouldn't I mind chatting to a hotwife that might can understand desires or reactions my wife is showing me.
We are professional and caring people looking for the same.
It took me a while, over a year. We were in our thirties and I thought we our marriage needing spicing up. My wife was a very conservative woman so I knew I had my work cut out for me. I never approached her about another man, until I thought she was ready. I did the following things but not necessarily in this order. You kind of have to know your wife well enough to see when to come back and reinforce what your point is by redoing a point.
All this will be over a period of time.
1. I told her, I loved her all the time. If she told me she loved me, don't reply "me to", that is killer for a woman. It's always, I love you, women want to hear the words.
2. I did things for her around the house so she had time for herself for whatever she wanted to do.
3. I encouraged her to go out with her girlfriends, this encourages freedom and that you trust her. Also be aware that her girlfriends might have sex with other men, they might encourage her to do the same. Since this is what you want, then this should not be problem. Another approach to this is, if you know for sure that one of your wife's friends is married is already a swinger or she fucks other men and you trust her, tell her you want your wife start fucking other men, slut women are a great resource to help you turn your wife into a slut for you, a lot faster than all these steps, but tend to get wilder about it.
4. I repeatedly left 1-2 pieces of chocolate or whatever candy your wife likes with a note that says, think of you sexy, love you sexy.
5. Encourage your wife to dress sexier and tell her how beautiful and sexy she looks.
6. Find out what her sizes are and if she dresses very conservative, start buying shorter to skirts with sexy heels that wrap around her ankle or pumps. The skirts don't have to be slutty, just short. Buy her very sex panties, women love to please their men. Always have your model the new clothes for you and tell her how sexy and beautiful she looks.
7. Find out her size and buy her some sexy lingerie' and tell her to model it for you and tell her how hot she looks. Tell her you would make any men's cock hard.
8. Make sure you get rid of her conservative clothes, you don't want her going back to dressing that way again.
9. Once she is dressing sexier, and you are walking around with her in a mall, store, hotel or restaurant, quickly pick out a good looking guy and tell her, WOW, you look so sexy that guy couldn't take his eyes off of you. Honey, you really are very sexy woman. This has to be repeated several times at different places.
10. Start taking her out to night clubs in hotels, she might not feel comfortable at first in shorter skirts because she might not want to be seen by someone in short skirts, so take her to a club in a nearby town. Prefer clubs in hotels, everything is convenient.
11. When you are out at a club and she goes the lady's room, when she returns tell her a couple of guys came over and they told me how lucky I was being with a very hot looking woman.Tell your wife they even asked it was O.K. if they asked her to dance and you agreed, a dance isn't going ...... anyone. Don't get into a big conversation about it.
12. At clubs, hotels,restaurants, always try to sit at a tables that are more private and maybe darker. When your on the dance floor, go to the area of the dance floor that is darker and more obscure, but where men can see her.
13. If she drinks make sure she gets some drinks in her and get her a little tipsy, not ......, then take her to the dance floor and dance to some slow sexy music.
14. Start kissing her passionately while dancing and when she is kissing you, put one of your hands on one of her ass cheeks. If she should pull your hand up grab a little bit of her skirt and drag it up, just enough, to partially show the guys watching, her panties or just the top of her legs. You want to show other guys that might be watching you that it's O.K. if they dance with her they can try to do the same thing.
15. What you want to do is send a signal to the guys watching, it is O.K. with you, if they want to dance with her, feel her off and raise her skirt. Dance with her a couple of songs and then go back to the table to sit and order some more drinks, while you go to the men's room.
16. On the way to the men's room, if you are able, stop at the guy's table that were watching you raise her skirt, but don't let your wife see you, encourage him or them to dance with your wife. If you have enough time and can get away with it, tell the guys at the table what your plan is and they are welcome to try to be the first one to fuck your wife. Another way this can be done is approach any guy in the men's room and tell him what you want to do. You should not be surprised that lots of your own friends would like to fuck your wife so you can even share what you want to do with a friend you really trust. There are several ways you can get guys to approach your wife.
17. Ask one of the guys that was watching you dancing to walk to the bathroom, if not the bathroom some place more private and tell him your plan. Most young guys will go along with you because most young guys are out to get some pussy. Tell them she is not aware, so go easy, only dancing until the time is right for him to raise her skirt a little. You might only make a light plan for that evening and continue in small steps, get to know each other and make a plan.
Like I said in point # 16, there are several ways you can get guys to approach your wife, just don't lose sight of the objective which should be you want other men to start fucking your wife.
18. Have more drinks, before you call the guy over, but don't get ....... You might want to make plans with guy and act like you know each other from the past, this usually makes a wife more at ease and opens up more to sex talking and touching.
19. Having your wife slow dancing often with other your friend sends signals to her that it is O.K. with you. You keep doing this until your wife is comfortable with an other man touching her and it shows her that it's O.K. with you.
20. You don't really want to push too much or you will blow it. At this point you want to get her comfortable in other men's arms. So you will have to get a guy that will go along with you for whatever time it takes. Keep the friend interested by reminding him the reward is going to be fucking your wife.
21. For as long as it takes, you keep telling her wow, my friend thinks you are very sexy woman, his other friends saw you dancing with him and they told him you looked real sexy hot.
22. Keep taking your wife to the club and have your friend meet you there and have him slow dance often with your wife. You are now making her more and more comfortable to be with another man. Tell him to take subtle freedoms with her like lightly kissing her or feeling her off, if she will allow it, don't forse her.
23. Talk to your wife in bed and tell her, my friend thinks I am a very lucky man to have such a sexy and hot looking woman. All his other friends tell him that you are so beautiful and sexy. My friend said, I bet she is a great fun in bed! Depending on her comeback, you can say something like, I am just telling you what they think of you, I agree with them, you are a very sexy woman. You are giving her the message it's O.K. with you that other men see her as sexy and it's O.K. if they dance with her and touch her.
24. At this point start buying, renting, downloading amateur threesome flicks. When you guys are by yourselves, start having drinks and do some very sexy slow dances at home. Practice them very well, because the next time she is a little tipsy at the club you will dance the same very sexy way, include lots of fingering her pussy when you are dancing. This will get her used to getting fingered on the dance floor. Get her real horny and watch a threesome flick, she will get her even hornier. Get your wife as horny as hell than start fucking the ...... out of her. Practice this several times over and over for weeks if you have to. Make it a ritual part of your hot sex action at home.
