I have the exact same thing going on.
She says she doesnt like the dildo but says if it was real she could probably do it.
She says this one just hurts.
But i remember the first time she used it when we first got it. She came so fast from it amd hard from it.
Now whwn i say im going to throw it away she always says we dont need to..
Who knows. They probably love it when we're not around... lol