What are your or for that matter her triggers for you getting hard or her getting wet? When I drive by the street her past FWB used to have a house on I immediately get hard. It also happens when we drive by a hotel she has been in with another guy. Sometimes I get hard when there is a comment about cleaning up although not related to sex. When we are starting to have sex and I mention a past name, how I'm going to have her visit a friend, or an attribute of one of her FWBs she starts to get very wet and horney.