Hey everyone, i wanted to try and compile one thread with tips on how to progress in this lifestyle.
My idea was to take everyone's ideas and add them to the first post in here to make it easy to read. If this works, maybe we can get it pinned to the top.
And for the record, we are not all the way in the lifestyle yet. fingers crossed for soon!
I will start by making a category and a simple thing that worked for us, please add any things that worked for you or advice you have.
Trouble talking with her about it: (For guys like me that struggle to bring it up with your wife)
Would you be comfortable talking with her about a clone of you? IE, after sex, say, "I wish I could clone myself so you could keep having sex after I cum" or something like that. My wife responded very well to this, and it led to many conversations about her with two of me. Two cocks..etc.
Watching porn together. Probably an obvious idea. But try it and let her select what ever she wants, and you can do the same. Or if you are shy about picking a hot wife/cuckold one to watch, you can "accidentally" choose one of those pretending you didn't realize it was like that. This can lead to talk about it. We talk about her being the woman in the videos.
Tell her you had a dream about her and another guy. You can't be blamed for having a dream like that. See how far you can go with talking about it. I told her i woke up so hard from the dream, but was embarrassed to tell her the dream..but I did tell her how she and another guy were together. and how turned on it made me. how proud I was of her.
Things to try
Using toys. This can be lots of fun for you both. We enjoy shopping together for them too. Watching her cum, kissing while she does etc are so fun. You can offer to put the lube on for her if she needs that and cleaning the toy after she is done. Maybe even licking her cum from it (i have not done that). I also asked my wife if we could name them. Sadly, her name was Lelo. We talk about her and Lelo a lot. Lelo happens to be the brand name though. Fwiw she loves Lelo brand toys more than any others.
Giving up masturbation/chastity device. This may not be for everyone, but for us, my wife does not like it if i cum in secret. I suggested we try a chastity cage but she didn't like the idea. I still want to revisit it someday though. But, I did totally agree to never masturbate alone, and I obey this rule totally. It seems like a loving conversation we have frequently about me never doing this with out her and even then i only cum when she wants me to. She is not really dom, but we found that if i did not cum for days/week i would be more affectionate to her, and she loved that. Some of it was faked by me, but i do think not cumming for extended periods does change me a bit. And yes, she does cum daily. I would say the ratio of her to me is 30 orgasms to my 1.
My idea was to take everyone's ideas and add them to the first post in here to make it easy to read. If this works, maybe we can get it pinned to the top.
And for the record, we are not all the way in the lifestyle yet. fingers crossed for soon!
I will start by making a category and a simple thing that worked for us, please add any things that worked for you or advice you have.
Trouble talking with her about it: (For guys like me that struggle to bring it up with your wife)
Would you be comfortable talking with her about a clone of you? IE, after sex, say, "I wish I could clone myself so you could keep having sex after I cum" or something like that. My wife responded very well to this, and it led to many conversations about her with two of me. Two cocks..etc.
Watching porn together. Probably an obvious idea. But try it and let her select what ever she wants, and you can do the same. Or if you are shy about picking a hot wife/cuckold one to watch, you can "accidentally" choose one of those pretending you didn't realize it was like that. This can lead to talk about it. We talk about her being the woman in the videos.
Tell her you had a dream about her and another guy. You can't be blamed for having a dream like that. See how far you can go with talking about it. I told her i woke up so hard from the dream, but was embarrassed to tell her the dream..but I did tell her how she and another guy were together. and how turned on it made me. how proud I was of her.
Things to try
Using toys. This can be lots of fun for you both. We enjoy shopping together for them too. Watching her cum, kissing while she does etc are so fun. You can offer to put the lube on for her if she needs that and cleaning the toy after she is done. Maybe even licking her cum from it (i have not done that). I also asked my wife if we could name them. Sadly, her name was Lelo. We talk about her and Lelo a lot. Lelo happens to be the brand name though. Fwiw she loves Lelo brand toys more than any others.
Giving up masturbation/chastity device. This may not be for everyone, but for us, my wife does not like it if i cum in secret. I suggested we try a chastity cage but she didn't like the idea. I still want to revisit it someday though. But, I did totally agree to never masturbate alone, and I obey this rule totally. It seems like a loving conversation we have frequently about me never doing this with out her and even then i only cum when she wants me to. She is not really dom, but we found that if i did not cum for days/week i would be more affectionate to her, and she loved that. Some of it was faked by me, but i do think not cumming for extended periods does change me a bit. And yes, she does cum daily. I would say the ratio of her to me is 30 orgasms to my 1.
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