Remorse or Guilt feelings after Orgasm..
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Seems very common from what I've read. My solution is do not cum during sex.
If you're thinking of sharing your wife, jerk off and right after you cum check with yourself if you still think it's something you're really keen to do. If it's not, it's probably not a good idea to do it because you'll feel regret after you share her. But if it still excites you, you'll probably be fine
Everybody wants to make it out like it's no big deal and husbands/bfs can and should just just get over it. I don't think that many people honestly acknowledge the possible range of emotions that go through a husband/bf that shares his wife/gf with a better, more capable lover.
I'm sure there's some that are virtually unaffected and feel nothing but good feelings. Just as assuredly, there must be guys that have had a sobering moment discovering that they have less prowess, physical size or stamina than others. Add witnessing such an event and it becomes an even stronger feeling.
It strikes me as odd that not many "fess up" to this being the case. Or wives for that matter, that have to deal with a husband/bf that feels inadequate. Most of the time it's simply (or sometimes literally), "Suck it up, you asked for this!" I refuse to believe that spouses that truly do love each other can be so unsympathetic.
I give you lots of credit for being sensitive enough to care about how your husband feels after he has an orgasm. It's clear you care!
I'm sure there's some that are virtually unaffected and feel nothing but good feelings. Just as assuredly, there must be guys that have had a sobering moment discovering that they have less prowess, physical size or stamina than others. Add witnessing such an event and it becomes an even stronger feeling.
It strikes me as odd that not many "fess up" to this being the case. Or wives for that matter, that have to deal with a husband/bf that feels inadequate. Most of the time it's simply (or sometimes literally), "Suck it up, you asked for this!" I refuse to believe that spouses that truly do love each other can be so unsympathetic.
I give you lots of credit for being sensitive enough to care about how your husband feels after he has an orgasm. It's clear you care!
I don't get a guilty feeling or regret but sometimes after I cum it's like what the fuck did we just do! But it tends to go away and I'm horny again for sharing in no time. I think if regret is creeping in maybe you rushed in to soon and should have took more time. Maybe start out with baby steps like letting a man feel your wife's tits without anything else and see how you feel. And then up the ante with letting her give handjobs and blowjobs etc.
I don't recommend just diving in a letting someone plow your wife silly on the first adventure. It might work for some people but I think that's where regret comes from in a lot of cases. Not all. Regret is a common theme I'm afraid it's just a roll of the dice with sharing. You'll either like it or you won't.
I don't recommend just diving in a letting someone plow your wife silly on the first adventure. It might work for some people but I think that's where regret comes from in a lot of cases. Not all. Regret is a common theme I'm afraid it's just a roll of the dice with sharing. You'll either like it or you won't.
Thank you, yes I care.. we are doing this for us and to put a spark in our love life, not our marriage.. I’m afraid of what he will feel after the horniness is gone and reality sets in. Thank you for understanding my point.!
Yes, some sort of those feelings already surfaced - particularly in the beginning. It wasn't that much about the sharing act itself, but anyone (or the couple) may wonder the same: Where does it leads me to? or What if we are wrecking out our relationship?
There were some interactions of wife with other men that I wasn't expecting or ready for. When my wife said she wanted to see again a guy that acted like a jerk to us. for example, or when she started to show some newer preferences in bed after having sex and being shared with other men. That kind of perceptions will probably make a husband (or wife) to dweel between resentments.
Those feelings and thoughts goes away as the thrilling for new experiences kicks back in, but the cycle repeats for a while.
Has he said anything or acted or shown any behavior that has caused you to worry?
She knows I'd like her to try a different (preferably larger) cock. She hasn't acted on it. My wife isn't a hot wife but we do engage in "dirty talk" in bed. My wife was very timid and awkward at first but she has become quite good at the verbal teasing. It has been my thinking that if she actually tried it it might open up her sexual drive and interest altogether.
The real fear is that I may become less desirable as a sexual partner. Like you said, you are doing it to put a "spark" in your love life, not to ruin your marriage. For me, if it resulted in me having less sex or getting less sexual attention then it would be a tragic failure. I'm all for her expanding her sexual horizons. I'm definitely not wanting mine to be diminished by her expanded sexuality. I've always wanted more sex. I have a real difficult time understanding why people would want less sex and truly be satisfied.
Post nut remorse can happen any time. This lifestyle is one of the things I've never regretted. Solution above not to cum until your home/alone works. But personally, I fucking LOVE sharing my woman and cannot get enough of it. My only regret is not embracing this when I was younger and other girlfriends wanted MMF threesomes and/or I was jealous.
Even if you know it wasn't the case, have you ever felt left out, or disregarded because your wife is caught up in her sexual freedom? I've looked at your media and read many posts by your wife. She seems to be very smart and well grounded. She is VERY attractive and it looks like she's pretty active! Does she do anything to help you feel reassured that you are desired and wanted sexually? It's my guess that the possibility of resentment you mentioned would come from being left to your own devices to deal with your feelings.
To be honest, when we talk about it in bed during sex, or when we are role-playing and fantasizing. It allows us to have more and better sex. I am more worried in the post-orgasmic feelings he will have. That happens right after ejaculates. I hear that can cause men to have a lot of regret and guilt..
Hi, you meant an interesting reflexion.
We (both husband and wife) agreed that our open or shared relationship is just a fortunate accident of events. We didn't came all along here because husband wished to be a pornlike cuck, or wife wished to experience a rebel sex succubus alternative life. And that counts in our case because if one of us had nurtured a more peculiar wish from the beginning, the result would be retreating from LS, probably. The load or burst of feelings would bee just too much.
Fact is that wife always wanted to stay with someone for good, divorce for her is almost unthinkable. She had one boyfriend, then the second and then husband. But contradictorily she also had a very active and experimental sexual life before them and between those relationships. Yes, wife cheated on them, but didn't want to cheat the husband. Well, she just didn't want a married life risking to be bothered with infidelity accusations or divorce since the sexual experiments remained enticing...but as you might see now, we figure out a way to bypass this.
So, wife is like a very sexual person who doesn't want to be a nympho most of the time, but just sometimes.... and wife is very sexual with her male dates, as she also remains very sexual with husband. That reality greases our wheels for good, pretty much. We don't taste resentment our fear often because this combination between of our wishes, personalities and life circumstance kind fixes it all and make it (LS) easy and suitable for both of us.
We practice some moderation as guidance, too. From time to time we slow the pace of meetings, escapades, and keep quiet just the two of us. Ah, and we do have some few rules. One of them is to leave it all behind if one of us got too much bothered with the LS.
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