for us it was true. the first person I was shared with was a younger black man that worked with my husband. I was nervous enough just thinking about being with another man, but was really surprised when we arrived at the hotel room and this black man answered the door. Richard had never said or even hinted that he wanted to see me shared with a black man so I was certainly taken aback. After a few glasses of wine though, I went through with it and enjoyed myself so much that I told Richard that I wanted to be shared again and with just black men from that point forward. Needless to say, he had this huge grin on his face when I informed him of this and said that's why he had me shared with black for my first time.