New to this & learning: wife confessed she wants to be with a black man

imherman

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Hi everyone. Im really grateful this forum exists. I’ve been processing and trying to learn as much as I can since learning my wife wants to open the marriage and ...... with a black man.

We are happily married in our mid and late 30s and have been together 12 years, married for 6.

I’ve been cheated on before in other relationships and learned that I’m a cuck through this experience. It hurt to be cheated on but it also really turned me on and consumed my sexual fantasies.

My wife knows about this but we’ve never discussed sharing her. She sometimes tells me hot stories from her past or tell me about the men she finds attractive when we’re fooling around - I love this and never felt like pushing it further.

The idea of sharing my wife has always been in my mind as a fantasy. She’s a thicc Puerto Rican woman and gets a lot of attention from men everywhere we go.

I’ve always loved the idea of unleashing her as she has limited experience with other men. She had 1 long term bf, one FWB immediately after, then she met me.

I’ve never talked to her about moving forward because I know I’m a jealous guy and I believe I would have a lot of insecurities around it.

We haven’t discussed it at all in years but she brought it up right after sex a couple weeks ago. She asked me if I still think about it and confessed that she’s been interested in trying the hotwife lifestyle and that she wants to experience black men.

I was not ready for this confession and definitely not ready to hear she wants to try black guys. She’s never expressed interest or or mentioned any attraction. She says it’s all new for her (within the last year)

I’m torn. I dont know if I can go through with it but also can’t fathom keeping my wife from something I know she wants badly ( it must have taken a lot of courage to admit this to me).

Any time we’ve had sex since the confession all I can think about is what she wants, how she wants to give what I’m feeling to another man, how a stranger is going to feel my wife and know her intimately.

When I cum all I can think is ‘she wants to give this beautiful and intimate experience to another man’

I’m also incredibly conflicted by the interracial aspect of this. I have to admit I would be much more comfortable if it was a white guy she wanted to ...... with.

I’m hoping for any helpful insights and advice given my situation. I appreciate your time
 
run with it as a fantasy for a while - during foreplay or sex - and see how comfortable you both are with the idea. Remember, though, to be clear that it's an idea only initially. Then, be honest and talk about how it makes you feel. Your reluctance is probably born out of the social taboo of it all and, frankly, this might turn out to be the biggest thrill of it (as it is for us) once you can confront that.
 
Hi everyone. Im really grateful this forum exists. I’ve been processing and trying to learn as much as I can since learning my wife wants to open the marriage and ...... with a black man.

We are happily married in our mid and late 30s and have been together 12 years, married for 6.

I’ve been cheated on before in other relationships and learned that I’m a cuck through this experience. It hurt to be cheated on but it also really turned me on and consumed my sexual fantasies.

My wife knows about this but we’ve never discussed sharing her. She sometimes tells me hot stories from her past or tell me about the men she finds attractive when we’re fooling around - I love this and never felt like pushing it further.

The idea of sharing my wife has always been in my mind as a fantasy. She’s a thicc Puerto Rican woman and gets a lot of attention from men everywhere we go.

I’ve always loved the idea of unleashing her as she has limited experience with other men. She had 1 long term bf, one FWB immediately after, then she met me.

I’ve never talked to her about moving forward because I know I’m a jealous guy and I believe I would have a lot of insecurities around it.

We haven’t discussed it at all in years but she brought it up right after sex a couple weeks ago. She asked me if I still think about it and confessed that she’s been interested in trying the hotwife lifestyle and that she wants to experience black men.

I was not ready for this confession and definitely not ready to hear she wants to try black guys. She’s never expressed interest or or mentioned any attraction. She says it’s all new for her (within the last year)

I’m torn. I dont know if I can go through with it but also can’t fathom keeping my wife from something I know she wants badly ( it must have taken a lot of courage to admit this to me).

Any time we’ve had sex since the confession all I can think about is what she wants, how she wants to give what I’m feeling to another man, how a stranger is going to feel my wife and know her intimately.

When I cum all I can think is ‘she wants to give this beautiful and intimate experience to another man’

I’m also incredibly conflicted by the interracial aspect of this. I have to admit I would be much more comfortable if it was a white guy she wanted to ...... with.

I’m hoping for any helpful insights and advice given my situation. I appreciate your time
WOW TY for Bravely posting this, im 62 wm with a sexy unaware 46yo redhead wife of 20yrs, i never thot id day this, but as my cock acts 'older' i find self wanting 2c her have the ultimate thrill of a younger cocksman deep seeding her yearning needy redtopped treasure..
 
WOW TY for Bravely posting this, im 62 wm with a sexy unaware 46yo redhead wife of 20yrs, i never thot id day this, but as my cock acts 'older' i find self wanting 2c her have the ultimate thrill of a younger cocksman deep seeding her yearning needy redtopped treasure..
Thanks man, it took a lot of courage to post this but not as much as my wife needed to bring the subject up to me.

I’m still dealing with the fact that she wants to have sex with another man but I know I will feel better as a husband if I can support her and help her explore her sexual desires.

When your wife is beautiful you want her to have it all, and I can see you feel the same way
 
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