I am an Engineer 56, currently working in Toronto. Wife is a part time secretary 45. 2 sons aged 16 & 12. They are based in Chicago.
I have only as recently as 3-4 years spoke to her about this and she thought I am mad and then I encouraged her to get back to gym and get the shape back. I also encouraged her to wear glamorous revealing dresses when we go out.
We both enjoyed that and I sensed, it gave her confidence and she started enjoying the stares and flirts it came with it.
Last year I was asked by my company to over see a project in Toronto and I had to move away from the family. I do visit them once every two months or so.