Need advice.

Lighten up. She asked for help , not a scolding. She’s not the first person to ask for advice. It’s a forum open to all to enjoy.
And my advice is to talk to her husband not us. It actually is great advice because every couple that makes this sort of lifestyle work only do so because they have great communication about it.

So it seems the only one trying to scold anyone is you,. Funny that.
 
I get it. You are asking for advice on how to best approach your husband but you fully intend on communicating with him at some point. You need a way to first determine if this is a safe topic to discuss before launching into an open discussion about it. Knowing this is a very common fantasy in men should give you hope.

I believe the folks here could provide excellent advice on how best to start this conversation since many here know how it was first broached in their own relationships. I see men asking for advice on how to “trick” their wives into it. I bristle when I see those.

Our own foray into this grew organically from nudism to light swinging, to swinging, to me watching while she plays. we had no goal to wind up here. the journey has been great and everyone of those steps could have been a successful end point.
 
I get it. You are asking for advice on how to best approach your husband but you fully intend on communicating with him at some point. You need a way to first determine if this is a safe topic to discuss before launching into an open discussion about it. Knowing this is a very common fantasy in men should give you hope.

I believe the folks here could provide excellent advice on how best to start this conversation since many here know how it was first broached in their own relationships. I see men asking for advice on how to “trick” their wives into it. I bristle when I see those.

Our own foray into this grew organically from nudism to light swinging, to swinging, to me watching while she plays. we had no goal to wind up here. the journey has been great and everyone of those steps could have been a successful end point.
There should never be trickery involved.