Recently my wife and I have entered the Hotwife space. She chose a distant professional friend of husband who is married and super sexy. After a few months of sexting back and forth they finally met up. The wife made a day trip (2 days ago) by flying to him at a nearby airport and spending about 9 hours with before coming home.
Unfortunately, the previous week our bond and closeness was a little off. Later in the afternoon when I was not able to reach her on phone by text I became extremely jealous and sick to my stomach. Hopeful it would pass and that I would quickly overcome I continued to the airport to pick her up. Rarely I am a jealous person and the emotion I was experiencing was surprising and confusing.
I mentioned to her by text that "I was struggling emotionally" Her response was more of well this is what you wanted and continued to say she liked it and plans to continue. Her response made me feel like I was losing control of my the woman I love so dearly. At the airport and uber ride home our discussion was minimal and was not comforting or reassuring me. She was a bit abrasive and more or less a bit angry that I was upset.
Over the next two days we had many heart to heart conversations. We have cried and even to the point I have recommitted myself to her an insisted we renew our vows in a private wedding in the Spring. She remained persistent about her desire to not stop and said we need some rules. Basically, their dates and fun could not exceed our date time and fun or we would be out of balance. I shared with here several articles that basically said all the same thing: Husband is #1, open communication, set rules together and stick to them, always make love after playing with others..
Tonight at dinner we were ok so I thought and she continue telling me about their time together and desire to make more plans. She mentioned having him to our home when I am away on business and I told here I was not comfortable using our home at this time. She more or less disregarded my request. While she says this is all fun and innocent I am concerned with her overly desire to continue without my approval. For me I don't feel like I am #1 but rather not considered. When discussing our fantasy it was made clear I had zero desire to be degraded, humiliated, or disrespected. We closed our tab and walked home and kindly explained that I am not ok with her approach. My ask is that I should have the ability to say NO at anytime and she disagrees. They have another date planned in 10 days that they planned before asking me.
She is 40 Year and he is a fit 58 year male. Body like a 25 year old, fit, hung, attractive, smart, successful, 6'6". My wife has always been attractive to older & taller men. I am in great shape, successful, 45, and 5'8".
I am being overly concerned? Is it normal for a hotwife / vixen lifestyle for the wife to continue against her husband's request? Why does she not value my request and feelings? Should I just let this play out and see what happens? At some point he will be to busy for her and she will get upset with him and lean back my way. Is it normal for a hotwife to text and communicate daily with the guy? She says there is zero emotion but her actions say different.
Any advice is very much appreciated. Thank you!
Unfortunately, the previous week our bond and closeness was a little off. Later in the afternoon when I was not able to reach her on phone by text I became extremely jealous and sick to my stomach. Hopeful it would pass and that I would quickly overcome I continued to the airport to pick her up. Rarely I am a jealous person and the emotion I was experiencing was surprising and confusing.
I mentioned to her by text that "I was struggling emotionally" Her response was more of well this is what you wanted and continued to say she liked it and plans to continue. Her response made me feel like I was losing control of my the woman I love so dearly. At the airport and uber ride home our discussion was minimal and was not comforting or reassuring me. She was a bit abrasive and more or less a bit angry that I was upset.
Over the next two days we had many heart to heart conversations. We have cried and even to the point I have recommitted myself to her an insisted we renew our vows in a private wedding in the Spring. She remained persistent about her desire to not stop and said we need some rules. Basically, their dates and fun could not exceed our date time and fun or we would be out of balance. I shared with here several articles that basically said all the same thing: Husband is #1, open communication, set rules together and stick to them, always make love after playing with others..
Tonight at dinner we were ok so I thought and she continue telling me about their time together and desire to make more plans. She mentioned having him to our home when I am away on business and I told here I was not comfortable using our home at this time. She more or less disregarded my request. While she says this is all fun and innocent I am concerned with her overly desire to continue without my approval. For me I don't feel like I am #1 but rather not considered. When discussing our fantasy it was made clear I had zero desire to be degraded, humiliated, or disrespected. We closed our tab and walked home and kindly explained that I am not ok with her approach. My ask is that I should have the ability to say NO at anytime and she disagrees. They have another date planned in 10 days that they planned before asking me.
She is 40 Year and he is a fit 58 year male. Body like a 25 year old, fit, hung, attractive, smart, successful, 6'6". My wife has always been attractive to older & taller men. I am in great shape, successful, 45, and 5'8".
I am being overly concerned? Is it normal for a hotwife / vixen lifestyle for the wife to continue against her husband's request? Why does she not value my request and feelings? Should I just let this play out and see what happens? At some point he will be to busy for her and she will get upset with him and lean back my way. Is it normal for a hotwife to text and communicate daily with the guy? She says there is zero emotion but her actions say different.
Any advice is very much appreciated. Thank you!
