I used to be about 5 1/2" - 6" and was convinced I was small, guess porn has a way of skewing one's thinking. Then we went to a sex club a few times. Guess what, I'm average. Boy was that an eye opener. On occasions there were some bigger dicks present, not too many and a surprise to me, the women there did NOT flock to them. Not what I expected. It was a paradigm shift for me.
Somewhere in our relationship sex tapered off, now to almost ZERO. Remember the frog in hot water axiom. And believe or not my dick has actually atrophied. I'm now 4 1/2' at best. Some ED issues and age are certainly factors. I believe the ED is primarily because of denial, she denies me sex ALL the time, that has a psychological effect on erections and performance, a weaker erection meas a smaller dick.
We used ot have sex several times a day. She was very promiscuous having almost 500 partners. her fav terms were, "jump you bones" and "get in me now". Now it's NO!!!!!
Having been in the past able to fuck and now not, having a wife who has experienced hundreds of men of ALL different sizes, I think kinda gives me a different perspective than guys born small or husbands with more chaste wives. Add to that she has aged and natural lubrication, wetness is a problem. As the gyn told her "use it or loose it". She has lost it. So any attempt needs lube, lots of lube.
This of course is a formula for failure abject failure.
1 - She can't get wet and now has a very constricted, narrow, non-elastic vaginal canal.
2 - Age has taken it;s toll on agility so many positions are just not possible
3 - I can't get hard enough to penetrate
4 - I'm not big to get in far enough to make a difference
5 - I'm sure her frustration affects her desire to NOT even try for fear of non-completion
So in an effort to give her the sexual satisfaction she needs, she desires and I'm sure she wants. I have offered to expand our sex life (actually non-sex) to include other men.
At this point I'll stop writing and await comments and/or questions.